Wendy Skeleton
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009
Under: Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : WendySkeleton
Country or City you are from: : Australia
Your Age : 18
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : The next Wonder Woman.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 15
How old were you when you first told someone? : 15
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I was talking on MSN with my buddies, and then I just asked them what they thought of queers. The friends I were talking to said they were okay with it, and I just told them straight out.
I however regret telling them online. I wish I told them face to face.
What made you choose that person to tell? : It was just something I had to get out. I couldn’t hide something that was so important to me.
Can you remember exactly what you said? : I just said, “I’m gay.” That simple, really.
How did you feel? : My hands were actually really shaky and I could feel the adrenalin running through my body. I was also sweating pretty hard because I thought they would disapprove of me because of my sexual orientation.
What was the person’s reaction? : They were completely fine with it.
What did they say? : They were saying things like, “I’m so proud of you for coming out!” etc.
What was your relationship with the person like afterwards? : Still remained the same. My sexual orientation did not change a thing.
What’s it like now? : My friends, having made some new queer friends in university, they invited me out to some queer bars.
If you’ve been outed unwillingly, who did it? : It was an acquaintance at university.
What happened? : I had only told two people at that time, but someone else asked me - someone who didn’t know if I was queer - asked me if I was gay.
I then knew someone had treated my sexual orientation like a piece of gossip.
What were peoples’ reactions? : I’m sure a few other people know, but that someone else who asked me if I was gay or not was fine with it.
If you’ve experienced homophobia etc, please give an example. : It wasn’t homophobia directed towards me and me only, but it has affected me regardless. It’s the usual stuff, like, “I support gay people, BUT…” and “I hope they all live in San Francisco and stay there.”
Since coming out how out are you at school? : only_friends
Since coming out, how “out” are you at work? : not_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with family? : not_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with your friends? : only_friends
What does being out mean to you? : Showing your visibility, telling people that you’re there and being honest with yourself.
What differences, if any, did your cultural background make to your experience of coming out? : I don’t think it affected my coming out, but I think it will affect the queer community, with my background being Chinese.
What does the concept of the closet mean to you? : Something to hide in really. I guess some people treat it like a home base where they can hide.
What advice would you give someone wanting to come out? : I don’t think I could say much. So far, my coming out has been a smooth ride so far.
It’s best just to tell someone who you think you should tell, and just tell them straight out (no pun intended).
Country or City you are from: : Australia
Your Age : 18
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : The next Wonder Woman.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 15
How old were you when you first told someone? : 15
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I was talking on MSN with my buddies, and then I just asked them what they thought of queers. The friends I were talking to said they were okay with it, and I just told them straight out.
I however regret telling them online. I wish I told them face to face.
What made you choose that person to tell? : It was just something I had to get out. I couldn’t hide something that was so important to me.
Can you remember exactly what you said? : I just said, “I’m gay.” That simple, really.
How did you feel? : My hands were actually really shaky and I could feel the adrenalin running through my body. I was also sweating pretty hard because I thought they would disapprove of me because of my sexual orientation.
What was the person’s reaction? : They were completely fine with it.
What did they say? : They were saying things like, “I’m so proud of you for coming out!” etc.
What was your relationship with the person like afterwards? : Still remained the same. My sexual orientation did not change a thing.
What’s it like now? : My friends, having made some new queer friends in university, they invited me out to some queer bars.
If you’ve been outed unwillingly, who did it? : It was an acquaintance at university.
What happened? : I had only told two people at that time, but someone else asked me - someone who didn’t know if I was queer - asked me if I was gay.
I then knew someone had treated my sexual orientation like a piece of gossip.
What were peoples’ reactions? : I’m sure a few other people know, but that someone else who asked me if I was gay or not was fine with it.
If you’ve experienced homophobia etc, please give an example. : It wasn’t homophobia directed towards me and me only, but it has affected me regardless. It’s the usual stuff, like, “I support gay people, BUT…” and “I hope they all live in San Francisco and stay there.”
Since coming out how out are you at school? : only_friends
Since coming out, how “out” are you at work? : not_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with family? : not_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with your friends? : only_friends
What does being out mean to you? : Showing your visibility, telling people that you’re there and being honest with yourself.
What differences, if any, did your cultural background make to your experience of coming out? : I don’t think it affected my coming out, but I think it will affect the queer community, with my background being Chinese.
What does the concept of the closet mean to you? : Something to hide in really. I guess some people treat it like a home base where they can hide.
What advice would you give someone wanting to come out? : I don’t think I could say much. So far, my coming out has been a smooth ride so far.
It’s best just to tell someone who you think you should tell, and just tell them straight out (no pun intended).
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