Posted by ulla on Wednesday, December 30, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
 Name/nickname: mayjbirdGender: female What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? dyke What other words would you use to describe yourself? queer How old were you when you first realized your identity? probably end of grade school How old were you when you first told someone? When I was 13 years old. Did you plan it? If so, how? I didn't, but I'm glad it wasn't pre-meditated... I might have chickened out. What made you choose that person to tell? I was in an all...
 I made a point of raising my children to be aware of diversity and all that that may embrace, whether looks, health, colour etc, never dreaming that one day it would stand me in such good stead and make what for most is a huge step, one that for me went so smoothly. I first starting exploring my same sex fantasies on the internet, name the lesbian chatrooms. My daughter found me on one of the chatrooms one evening and wanted to know what on earth I was doing there as I wasn’t gay and liked m...
I asked members of a local forum to tell me what it was like to come out to their kids. If anyone out (or even not out) there wants to comment or share stuff, please feel free; you can either use the comment thingy under each post or you can use to contact form. Anonymity guaranteed if that is what you need. I have some more of these stories on the way too - plus, as ever, please consider doing the general far-too-linear coming out interview as well - add anything you like to it and ignore...
I was exceptionally lucky. I had the full support of my kids’ dad, who always believed i was bisexual, and probably more of a lesbian. I kept my first relationship from them as they were so young, and I felt that they didn't need to know. When I met Sarah in 2004, the kids were 13, 11 and 8; the older ones had some idea of what was going on already. I hate being secretive and wanted to be totally open with Sarah in front of them. I told David and Lori together. They asked no questions, but ...
Posted by ulla on Monday, March 9, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Victoria
Country or City you are from: : Cape Town
Your Age : 37
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : in love with a girl
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 36
How old were you when you first told someone? : 36
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I'd just got it on with my first girl and I was so excited about it I had to tell my Mum! I was a little nervous though...the thought crossed my ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Friday, March 6, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Malanya
Country or City you are from: : Queens
Your Age : 17
Your Gender : girl
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Fun, Silly, Artistic, Creative, Open, Friendly, Sexy, Motivated, Confident, Going Places, Helpful, Thoughtful, Hard-Working, Great Friend, Understanding, Intelligent, Sensitive, Smily, Loud Laughter, Cute, Emotional, Hedonistic
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 14
How old were you when yo... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Thursday, March 5, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country & city: Presently Placerville, California, USA
Name/nickname: Julie
Age: 38
Gender: F
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)?
Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Positive, cheery, spiritual, compassionate, flirty, girly, overly analytical/intellectualizing
How old were you when you first realized your identity? I think 35
How old were you when you first told someone? 35
Did you plan it? If so, how? N...
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Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Opinion
(Originally published on QueerLife - By Ulla Kelly)
Since the Coming Out Stories project started, I’ve been pondering the
concept of closets and coming out of them. It’s so much bigger than
sexuality, I think. It feels like coming out to tell people I have PTSD
and am on anti-depressants.
When I tell local people I’m a Buddhist they react as if I just said I
was gay/alien/mad. Those three things are not synonyms. My conclusion
is that you don’t have to be LGBTQ to come out.
I’ll t... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country & city: Australia (Melbourne)
Name/nickname: hallie, digit
Age: 37
Gender: Female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered)? Big lesso
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Maybe a little butch
How old were you when you first realized your identity? 20
How old were you when you first told someone? 20
Did you plan it? If so, how? No plan; I was actually with my boyfriend for 7 years when I met my first girl and it just happened.
What made you choose that person to tell... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Queer
Country & city: Eastern Cape, South Africa
Name/nickname: Ulla Kelly
Age: 38
Gender: cisgendered female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered)? gay/lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? boi, butch, dyke, woman, human being
How old were you when you first realized your identity? As a small kid, I think I suspected it - by the time I was a teenager, I was pretty sure.
How old were you when you first told someone? 21 ish
Did you plan it? If so, how? No plan except a bo... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Queer
Country & city: Asheville, NC, US
Name/nickname: Trailer Park Queer
Age:26
Gender: Genderqueer
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered)? To my mom, lesbian, to myself and the world, queer.
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Queer, dyke, genderqueer
How old were you when you first realized your identity? 18
How old were you when you first told someone? 18
Did you plan it? If so, how?
I really didn't. I was visiting my mom home from college for a day in
the Fall of my sophomo... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country & city: South Africa - Johannesburg
Name/nickname: Pup
Age: 43
Gender: F
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered)? Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Spiritual, intelligent, compassionate
How old were you when you first realized your identity? 4 years old, realised I was different
How old were you when you first told someone? 28
Did you plan it? If so, how? Made dinner appointments with loved ones and told them
What made you choose that person to tell? There wer... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : skwirrel
Country or City you are from: : CapeTown
Your Age : 46
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Friend, daughter, sister, wife.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : mid-teens
How old were you when you first told someone? : 31
Did you plan it? If so, how?
: I’ve said 31 as the age I first told someone, because before then
only one person knew and that person had died a few years e... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Taryn Vanhout
Country or City you are from: : Pretoria, South Africa
Your Age : 29
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 15
How old were you when you first told someone? : 17, told my older sister
Did you plan it? If so, how? : no
What made you choose that person to tell? : It was inevitable that she would tell my parents, sparing me from doing it.
Can... Continue reading ...
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