Coming out is hard to do ... and there are some amazing stories collected here, from all walks of life, all over Earth.  Please consider sharing your story, whether you came out yourself, or somebody else came out to you.  For both interviews, there's a standard set of questions plus plenty of space for you to add anything you like, just use either of the aforementioned links - thanks.  The interviews are published here and on a South African LGBTQI portal called QueerLife - big ups to them for hosting the online form and supporting the project - don't forget to visit them and see your story there. 

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TigerEyes on coming out to her kids

Posted by ulla on Wednesday, May 27, 2009, In : Coming out to the kids 


I made a point of raising my children to be aware of diversity and all that that may embrace, whether looks, health, colour etc, never dreaming that one day it would stand me in such good stead and make what for most is a huge step, one that for me went so smoothly.

I first starting exploring my same sex fantasies on the internet, name the lesbian chatrooms. My daughter found me on one of the chatrooms one evening and wanted to know what on earth I was doing there as I wasn’t gay and liked m...

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A few South African perspectives on coming out to the kids

Posted by ulla on Wednesday, May 27, 2009, In : Coming out to the kids 


I asked members of a local forum to tell me what it was like to come out to their kids.  If anyone out (or even not out) there wants to comment or share stuff, please feel free; you can either use the comment thingy under each post or you can use to contact form.  Anonymity guaranteed if that is what you need.  I have some more of these stories on the way too - plus, as ever, please consider doing the general far-too-linear coming out interview as well - add anything you like to it and ignore...

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Victoria

Posted by ulla on Monday, March 9, 2009, In : Lesbian 
Name or Nick Name : Victoria
Country or City you are from: : Cape Town
Your Age : 37
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : in love with a girl
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 36
How old were you when you first told someone? : 36
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I'd just got it on with my first girl and I was so excited about it I had to tell my Mum! I was a little nervous though...the thought crossed my ...

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Julie

Posted by ulla on Thursday, March 5, 2009, In : Lesbian 
Country & city: Presently Placerville, California, USA
Name/nickname: Julie
Age: 38
Gender: F
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)?
Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Positive, cheery, spiritual, compassionate, flirty, girly, overly analytical/intellectualizing
How old were you when you first realized your identity? I think 35
 
How old were you when you first told someone? 35
 
Did you plan it? If so, how? N...

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Ulla Kelly

Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009, In : Queer 

Country & city: Eastern Cape, South Africa
Name/nickname: Ulla Kelly
Age: 38
Gender: cisgendered female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered)? gay/lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? boi, butch, dyke, woman, human being
How old were you when you first realized your identity? As a small kid, I think I suspected it - by the time I was a teenager, I was pretty sure.
How old were you when you first told someone? 21 ish
Did you plan it? If so, how? No plan except a bo...


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Pup

Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009, In : Lesbian 
Country & city: South Africa - Johannesburg
Name/nickname: Pup
Age: 43
Gender: F
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered)? Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Spiritual, intelligent, compassionate
How old were you when you first realized your identity? 4 years old, realised I was different
How old were you when you first told someone? 28
Did you plan it? If so, how? Made dinner appointments with loved ones and told them
What made you choose that person to tell? There wer...

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Skwirrel

Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009, In : Lesbian 
Name or Nick Name : skwirrel
Country or City you are from: : CapeTown
Your Age : 46
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Friend, daughter, sister, wife.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : mid-teens
How old were you when you first told someone? : 31
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I’ve said 31 as the age I first told someone, because before then only one person knew and that person had died a few years e...

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Taryn Vanhout

Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009, In : Lesbian 
Name or Nick Name : Taryn Vanhout
Country or City you are from: : Pretoria, South Africa
Your Age : 29
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 15
How old were you when you first told someone? : 17, told my older sister
Did you plan it? If so, how? : no
What made you choose that person to tell? : It was inevitable that she would tell my parents, sparing me from doing it.
Can...

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