Posted by ulla on Wednesday, December 30, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
 Name/nickname: mayjbirdGender: female What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? dyke What other words would you use to describe yourself? queer How old were you when you first realized your identity? probably end of grade school How old were you when you first told someone? When I was 13 years old. Did you plan it? If so, how? I didn't, but I'm glad it wasn't pre-meditated... I might have chickened out. What made you choose that person to tell? I was in an all...
Posted by ulla on Tuesday, September 29, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name: Josh Country or City you are from: Singapore Your Age 20 Your Gender Male What did you come out as? Gay What other words would you use to describe yourself? Funny, witty, optimistic (most of the time!) Hahaha How old were you when you first realised your identity? 15 How old were you when you first told someone? 19 Did you plan it? If so, how? Nope. It was rather impulsive of me (oh yes, that would be another adjective to describe myself). We just finished our last examination paper an... Continue reading ...
Country & City: St. John's, NL, Canada Name/nickname: Kris/Damien Age: 16 Gender: Boy, Guy What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? At first I came out as gay (never lesbian) and then trans What other words would you use to describe yourself? Eccentric, childish, impish, dashing, charming, jackass, sock monkey, trannyboy
How old were you when you first realized your identity? Well apparently I was informing my parents that I was a boy since I could talk, but a...
 I made a point of raising my children to be aware of diversity and all that that may embrace, whether looks, health, colour etc, never dreaming that one day it would stand me in such good stead and make what for most is a huge step, one that for me went so smoothly. I first starting exploring my same sex fantasies on the internet, name the lesbian chatrooms. My daughter found me on one of the chatrooms one evening and wanted to know what on earth I was doing there as I wasn’t gay and liked m...
I asked members of a local forum to tell me what it was like to come out to their kids. If anyone out (or even not out) there wants to comment or share stuff, please feel free; you can either use the comment thingy under each post or you can use to contact form. Anonymity guaranteed if that is what you need. I have some more of these stories on the way too - plus, as ever, please consider doing the general far-too-linear coming out interview as well - add anything you like to it and ignore...
I was exceptionally lucky. I had the full support of my kids’ dad, who always believed i was bisexual, and probably more of a lesbian. I kept my first relationship from them as they were so young, and I felt that they didn't need to know. When I met Sarah in 2004, the kids were 13, 11 and 8; the older ones had some idea of what was going on already. I hate being secretive and wanted to be totally open with Sarah in front of them. I told David and Lori together. They asked no questions, but ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, April 18, 2009,
In :
Gay
 Country & city: Reading, England Age: 35 Gender: Male What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Gay What other words would you use to describe yourself? Queer How old were you when you first realized your identity? About 7 or 8 How old were you when you first told someone? 18 Did you plan it? If so, how? The BBC were making a documentary about gay people coming out, I plucked up the courage to tell one of the BBC people having called the number given out. Her na...
Posted by ulla on Wednesday, April 1, 2009,
In :
Gay
Country & city: London, UK
Name/nickname: Steve M.
Age: 42
Gender: Male
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Gay
How old were you when you first realized your identity? I knew I was same-sex attracted from the age of 12, but didn’t call myself gay until I was 21.
How old were you when you first told someone? 34
Did you plan it? If so, how? Yes I planned it for a short time and wrote letters to my mum and brother. But it was more like an emotional damn bu... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Monday, March 9, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Victoria
Country or City you are from: : Cape Town
Your Age : 37
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : in love with a girl
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 36
How old were you when you first told someone? : 36
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I'd just got it on with my first girl and I was so excited about it I had to tell my Mum! I was a little nervous though...the thought crossed my ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, March 8, 2009,
In :
Bisexual
Name or Nick Name : marty Country or City you are from: : Leeds Your Age : 20 Your Gender : male What did you come out as? : Bi What other words would you use to describe yourself? : nervous How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 18 How old were you when you first told someone? : 19 Did you plan it? If so, how? : no What made you choose that person to tell? : they are my mates Can you remember exactly what you said? : I said "I am bi and I like guys more then girls" How did you feel? ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, March 7, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : BillioneCountry or City you are from: : Detroit, MI USA Your Age : 33 Your Gender : Male What did you come out as? : Gay What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Black, vegetarian, intellectual, intense, son/brother/uncle, a work in progress. How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 5 years old. How old were you when you first told someone? : 10 years old Did you plan it? If so, how? : It wasn't planed. It was more or less a situation where someon... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Friday, March 6, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Malanya
Country or City you are from: : Queens
Your Age : 17
Your Gender : girl
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Fun, Silly, Artistic, Creative, Open, Friendly, Sexy, Motivated, Confident, Going Places, Helpful, Thoughtful, Hard-Working, Great Friend, Understanding, Intelligent, Sensitive, Smily, Loud Laughter, Cute, Emotional, Hedonistic
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 14
How old were you when yo... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Thursday, March 5, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country & city: Presently Placerville, California, USA
Name/nickname: Julie
Age: 38
Gender: F
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)?
Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Positive, cheery, spiritual, compassionate, flirty, girly, overly analytical/intellectualizing
How old were you when you first realized your identity? I think 35
How old were you when you first told someone? 35
Did you plan it? If so, how? N...
Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Opinion
(Originally published on QueerLife - By Ulla Kelly)
Since the Coming Out Stories project started, I’ve been pondering the
concept of closets and coming out of them. It’s so much bigger than
sexuality, I think. It feels like coming out to tell people I have PTSD
and am on anti-depressants.
When I tell local people I’m a Buddhist they react as if I just said I
was gay/alien/mad. Those three things are not synonyms. My conclusion
is that you don’t have to be LGBTQ to come out.
I’ll t... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Country & city: United Kingdom
Name/nickname: Scott Tarpey (Neaemo)
Age: 18
Gender: Male
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered)? Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Misunderstood
How old were you when you first realized your identity? 14
How old were you when you first told someone? 17
Did you plan it? If so, how? October
2007 I did have a plan but the lass wasn’t in college, so i told my new
friend. When, I did we became closer and we were good friends before i
left... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country & city: Australia (Melbourne)
Name/nickname: hallie, digit
Age: 37
Gender: Female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered)? Big lesso
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Maybe a little butch
How old were you when you first realized your identity? 20
How old were you when you first told someone? 20
Did you plan it? If so, how? No plan; I was actually with my boyfriend for 7 years when I met my first girl and it just happened.
What made you choose that person to tell... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Queer
Country & city: Eastern Cape, South Africa
Name/nickname: Ulla Kelly
Age: 38
Gender: cisgendered female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered)? gay/lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? boi, butch, dyke, woman, human being
How old were you when you first realized your identity? As a small kid, I think I suspected it - by the time I was a teenager, I was pretty sure.
How old were you when you first told someone? 21 ish
Did you plan it? If so, how? No plan except a bo... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Queer
Country & city: Asheville, NC, US
Name/nickname: Trailer Park Queer
Age:26
Gender: Genderqueer
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered)? To my mom, lesbian, to myself and the world, queer.
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Queer, dyke, genderqueer
How old were you when you first realized your identity? 18
How old were you when you first told someone? 18
Did you plan it? If so, how?
I really didn't. I was visiting my mom home from college for a day in
the Fall of my sophomo... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country & city: South Africa - Johannesburg
Name/nickname: Pup
Age: 43
Gender: F
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered)? Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Spiritual, intelligent, compassionate
How old were you when you first realized your identity? 4 years old, realised I was different
How old were you when you first told someone? 28
Did you plan it? If so, how? Made dinner appointments with loved ones and told them
What made you choose that person to tell? There wer... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Transgendered
Country & city: Stockholm, Sweden Name/nickname: DrikAge: 20 Gender: FtM Boidyke wannabe fag. What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered)? Bi > transgendered > pansexual What other words would you use to describe yourself? Queer, polyamorous, slut How old were you when you first realized your identity? Uhm, 13 (bi) and 16 (trans) How old were you when you first told someone? 13 Did you plan it? If so, how? Not really, it just happened. What made you choose that person to tell? I told my mom cau... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : skwirrel
Country or City you are from: : CapeTown
Your Age : 46
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Friend, daughter, sister, wife.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : mid-teens
How old were you when you first told someone? : 31
Did you plan it? If so, how?
: I’ve said 31 as the age I first told someone, because before then
only one person knew and that person had died a few years e... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Taryn Vanhout
Country or City you are from: : Pretoria, South Africa
Your Age : 29
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 15
How old were you when you first told someone? : 17, told my older sister
Did you plan it? If so, how? : no
What made you choose that person to tell? : It was inevitable that she would tell my parents, sparing me from doing it.
Can... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Bisexual
Name or Nick Name : Sara
Country or City you are from: : Canada and the US
Your Age : 24
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Bi
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : geeky, chill, sarcastic
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 17
How old were you when you first told someone? : 17-a week later!
Did you plan it? If so, how? :
I hadn’t planned it at all–I was only still coming to terms with
realizing I was bi but I was at a birthday-Halloween party ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country & city: Summerfield, Ohio USA debadler.com / msqueer.comName/nickname: Deb Adler/ D.J. Age: 58 Gender: Woman What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here? Gay, Lesbian What other words would you use to describe yourself?
Lesbian, Lesbian-Feminist, Lesbian-Feminist Singer-Songwriter Activist
(you get the picture!) Also known to refer to myself as “Dyke” amongst
friends, but not from a “roles” perspective. And I have a “MsQueer”
blog. (How should... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Elizabeth
Country or City you are from: : USA
Your Age : 21
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Child of God, Follower of Christ, Musician, a little crazy (in a fun sort of way), and a thinker.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 21
How old were you when you first told someone? : 21
Did you plan it? If so, how? :
I’m mostly a closeted lesbian. The only other person who knows about m... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : JoieCountry or City you are from: : East Tennessee, USA Your Age : 28 Your Gender : male What did you come out as? : Gay What other words would you use to describe yourself? : I’m just trying to live a good life free of hate and devote myself to spreading equality. How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 5 How old were you when you first told someone? : 25 Did you plan it? If so, how? : I did plan it. I told one of my friends that I knew was gay over an instan... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Transgendered
Name or Nick Name : Vic
Country or City you are from: : Canada
Your Age : 19
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Queer
What did you come out as? : Transgendered
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : eccentric, nerd, artist, animal lover, feminist, athlete
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 19
How old were you when you first told someone? : 19
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Nope, he just happened to be online when I came out to myself.
What
made you cho... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : SethboyCountry or City you are from: : New Jersey, USA Your Age : 32 Your Gender : Male What did you come out as? : Gay What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Stay-Puft Marshmallow How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 15 ?? How old were you when you first told someone? : 19 Did you plan it? If so, how? : Yes. Just planned to have a serious talk - in the car while driving with Mom... What made you choose that person to tell? : Because she's the ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : DavidCountry or City you are from: : Calgary Your Age : 24 Your Gender : male What did you come out as? : Gay What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Leather How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 20 How old were you when you first told someone? : 23 Did you plan it? If so, how? : Didn't plan it. What made you choose that person to tell? : Coincidence and I just kind of felt like I needed to take some kind of first step. Can you remember exactly w... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Bisexual
Name or Nick Name : Clef BassCountry or City you are from: : United States Your Age : 19 Your Gender : Male What did you come out as? : Bi What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Artistic, Learner, Futuristic, Empathic, Mature, Loving How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 13-14 How old were you when you first told someone? : 15 Did you plan it? If so, how? : I didn't plan it. I just knew I was confused, and I didn't want to deal with it alone so I told a close frie... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Heather
Country or City you are from: : Perth, Western Australia
Your Age : 27
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Plain and simple Just A Dag!
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 6 yrs old
How old were you when you first told someone? : 19 yrs old
Did you plan it? If so, how? : No, It just sorta came out during a conversation we were having at the time.
What made you choose that perso... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Tamara, ThatGayGirlTamaraCountry or City you are from: : Florida Your Age : 29 Your Gender : female What did you come out as? : Lesbian What other words would you use to describe yourself? : funny, eclectic, unapologetic, christian. How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 17 How old were you when you first told someone? : 20 Did you plan it? If so, how? : I didn't plan it. My ex-boyfriend kept pressuring me for sex and I couldn't take it any longer. What made you... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : arawn dryw eibhlyn
Country or City you are from: : United States
Your Age : 57 (58 on 2/21/09)
Your Gender : male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Fag, Freaking Fag, Revolutionary, Queer
I like all the "insulting" ones. Don't much like gay b/c it's so mainstream ... too Abercrombie & Fitch to describe me.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? :
How old were you when you first told someone? : In 1972 at age 21... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Queen Of Spades
Country or City you are from: : Boston
Your Age : 27
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Sensitive, sarcastic, intelligent, intense, creative
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 24
How old were you when you first told someone? : 26
Did you plan it? If so, how?
: I did plan it. I wanted to tell her at some point during our dinner
engagement, because it was starting to m... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Country & city: New Delhi, India Name/nickname: UnsungPsalmAge: 20 Gender: Male What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Gay What other words would you use to describe yourself? Naive, Passionate, Rebellious, obsessive, optimistic, melancholic. How old were you when you first realized your identity? Around 14 How old were you when you first told someone? 19 Did you plan it? If so, how? Not
at all. A very close friend told me that she had feelings for me (over
t... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
 Country & city: USA - near Princeton, NJ (about halfway between Philadelphia and New York City) Name/nickname: GeoffAge: 24 Gender: male What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)?: First bi, then (soon after) gay What other words would you use to describe yourself? super-awesome, European mutt, telekinetic (see photo) How old were you when you first realized your identity? 18 How old were you when you first told someone? 18 Did you plan it? If so, how?
My best fr...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Antonio CapurroCountry or City you are from: : Perú Your Age : 37 Your Gender : Male What did you come out as? : Gay What other words would you use to describe yourself? : I am a nice, easy going person and real man. How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 5 years old How old were you when you first told someone? : 16 years old Did you plan it? If so, how? : I didn't plan I just wanted to share who I was with my best high school friend so it came natural and sp... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Michelle
Country or City you are from: : Cincinnati, USA
Your Age : 36
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 4. didn't know what to call it
How old were you when you first told someone? : 17
Did you plan it? If so, how? : No, I didn't plan it. I had been thinking about it a lot though. When we went out one night, I finally told my best friend.
What made you choose that person to tell?
: She was my best fr... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Transgendered
Country & city: Argentina Name/nickname: genderkidAge: 17 Gender: tough question! Genderqueer, maybe male. What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)?: first as lesbian, now as FTM transgender. What other words would you use to describe yourself? boy, guy, transman, queer How old were you when you first realized your identity?
I realized there was something queer about me when I was 14, and I
thought I was lesbian. At 16 I started identifying as trans after
seei... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : DonnaCountry or City you are from: : Philly Your Age : 27 Your Gender : Female What did you come out as? : Lesbian What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Gay, Lesbian, Healthy, Real, Honest, How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 18 How old were you when you first told someone? : 18 Did you plan it? If so, how? : I didn't plan it at all. Actually, my best friend at the time came out to me, and I just came out with her, so to speak! What made you ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name/nickname: LizzieAge: about to be 33 in a handful of days Gender: Female What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Lesbian/bi.
But I mostly say lesbian because I am married to a woman, and being
committed and monogamous, I don’t have any plans that involve the penis. What other words would you use to describe yourself? None of them are orientation words. Weird. Geek. Fat. Atheist. Irritable. Amazon. How old were you when you first realized your identit... Continue reading ...
Cess
is the first straight person who did the outerview! I wanted to get
some perspective from people who’ve had someone come out to them.
Thanks so much, Cess! Who came out to you and how are they connected to you? my best friend male
What did they come out as? first bi then gay
What did they say? he told me he kissed a guy.
How did they seem? it was 7 years ago during New Eve s, he was drunk ;)
Was it a surprise or did you know already? well, i knew i did not have much success with gir... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Bisexual
Country & city: United States
Name/nickname: Other
Age: 19
Gender: Female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Bisexual
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Friend, Family, Colleague
How old were you when you first realized your identity? 16
How old were you when you first told someone? 18
Did you plan it? If so, how?
I don’t really remember how “planned” it was, but an old high school
friend and I sat down on some random stoop in the c... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country & city: BC, Canada Name/nickname: ToniAge: 29 Gender: Female What did you come out as? My announcement was “I have a girlfriend” or “I’m dating a woman” or “I’m sooo gay” depending on the person I was coming out to. What other words would you use to describe yourself?
I generally just go by my first name, but have proudly called myself:
gay, queer, dyke, lesbian, pervert etc. I’m a bisexual breeder by
definition, I suppose. How old were you when you first realized your id... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Queen Sal of LesbesquetCountry or City you are from: : Motown, Hitsville, USA Your Age : 55 Your Gender : meta gendered Womyn What did you come out as? : Lesbian What other words would you use to describe yourself?
: To be perfectly honest, Y am goD, or Dog, as you prefer. So are you,
but if you don’t think so - could it be that you just don’t want the
responsibility? Oh, and spelling does not apply to ME. Yet, everything Y do is a spell. Go figure. How old were you when you... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Bisexual
Name or Nick Name : Amy
Country or City you are from: : Los Angeles
Your Age : 24
Your Gender : Whoa-man!
What did you come out as? : Bi
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Quirky, Witty, Lazy, Funny, Friendly
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 15
How old were you when you first told someone? : 22
Did you plan it? If so, how?
: Not exactly. I had a first date with a chick and lied about it to my
best friend. I said I went out with a dude. Later, she told me I... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Megan
Country or City you are from: : Tucson/Oregon
Your Age : 23
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : depends on the situation, but I like to think I'm amazing
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 17
How old were you when you first told someone? : 21
Did you plan it? If so, how?
: Not really, but I was at my friends wedding, and I am a vegetarian,
so they had put a vegetarian option on... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Queer
Country & city: Sydney, Australia Name/nickname: RWJSAge: 23 Gender: M What did you come out as? I believe the term was ‘queer’ What other words would you use to describe yourself? Gay, queer, fag, homo, I pretty much love it all. How old were you when you first realized your identity? 12/13 How old were you when you first told someone? 18 Did you plan it? If so, how? No. It just kind of came up in conversation. What made you choose that person to tell?
I figured they were okay with homosexuality... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Russell Southey
Country or City you are from: : Cape Town
Your Age : 44
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : I hope I never subscribe to any "labels" - after all there's only one of me.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 8 - Marc Spitz '72 Olympics...
How old were you when you first told someone? : 28
Did you plan it? If so, how? : No - we were chatting about life, family, etc, and the oppo... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : JamesCountry or City you are from: : USA - Fort Lauderdale Your Age : 39 Your Gender : Male What did you come out as? : Gay What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Fun, kid at heart, light spirited, appreciative. How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 6 or 7 How old were you when you first told someone? : 18 Did you plan it? If so, how? : No What made you choose that person to tell? : I knew he was gay. Can you remember exactly what you said? : I t... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : leejeanmare
Country or City you are from: : JHB
Your Age : 21
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Fun, Easygoing, sense of humor, loving, kind, charming
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 12
How old were you when you first told someone? : 15
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Yes, I couldnt live with lying to my friends and family anymore so I came out and told them.
What made you choose that p... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Transgendered
Country & city: Boston, MA, US
Name/nickname: Cid/Oration on WordPress
Age: 20
Gender: Trans male
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Initially bisexual, later, transgendered and adjusting the original label to ‘queer.’
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Queer, kinky, poly transfag.
How old were you when you first realized your identity?
Very young, on both counts, though I suppressed my gender identity far
more than my sexual ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Country & city: United States - Memphis, TN
Name/nickname: Jared
Age: 17
Gender: Male
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? A non-fem, non-butch boi who just likes the feeling of being with another guy
How old were you when you first realized your identity? Looking back, the hints were there since age 10, I realized it around 13 and accepted it when I was 17
How old were you when you first told ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
13
09
2008
Country & city: Right now, Taipei Taiwan (but I’m from Paarl, SA)
Name/nickname: Andrea Toerien but ppl call me Rai
Age:31
Gender:female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? faithful
How old were you when you first realized your identity? TOO OLD! 19
How old were you when you first told someone? 19
Did you plan it? If so, how? I fell in lo... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country & city: u.s.a./minneapolis
Name/nickname: amy powers
Age: 43
Gender: female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered)? gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? engaged,
active, responsible, silly, independent, strong, good listener,
friendly, outgoing, neurotic, passionate, big hearted, queer
How old were you when you first realized your identity? my queer identity - i was 17
How old were you when you first told someone? 17
Did you plan it? If so, how? no
What ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Transgendered
Country & city: finland, helsinki (i am originally from warner robins, georgia in the u.s.)
Name/nickname: b
Age: 27
Gender: male
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? transgendered
What other words would you use to describe yourself? queer, pansexual, trannyboy, empath
How old were you when you first realized your identity?
when i was 5 i told people i was going to grow up to be a boy. i always
knew i was a boy, but i didnt understand what was wrong ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Queer
Country & city: Dual citizenship of two pretty great countries.
Name/nickname: existere (my blog’s name). I’m a fan of internet anonymity!
Age: 30
Gender: female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)?
Originally came out as bisexual, which quickly changed to ‘queer’ as I
liked the umbrella term. I’m now identified-by-others as a lesbian,
identified-by-me as, well, me.
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Creative, quirky, inte... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Pomosexual
Country & city: San Francisco, USA
Name/nickname: Jonny
Age: 27
Gender: male
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Bi / pan / poly / pomo
What other words would you use to describe yourself?
I like to say that my sexuality is “universal” or “open”. It’s a nice
way of giving people a word that seems like a label but which has
relatively few connotations.
How old were you when you first realized your identity?
I’m still not even sure abou... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Bisexual
Country & city: Uk/Leicester
Name/nickname: Rhi
Age: 26
Gender: F
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Bi.
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Rhi.
How old were you when you first realized your identity? 23-ish when I realised
How old were you when you first told someone? 24/25
Did you plan it? If so, how? I didn’t really plan it. There was wine.
{What made you choose that person to tell?
How did you feel?
What was the person’s ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Queer
Name or Nick Name : Taliesin Cormach
Country or City you are from: : Johannesburg, South Africa
Your Age : 43
Your Website: : Queerlife
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Queer
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Tree Hugger, Queer Druid, Hater of christian and muslim bigots… The list goes on…
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 11
How old were you when you first told someone? : 20
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Yes I planned it, I need... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : james rowntree
Country or City you are from: : cape town
Your Age : 35
Your Gender : male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : straight acting normal gay guy
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 13
How old were you when you first told someone? : 22
Did you plan it? If so, how? : yes i planned it, i only new one other gay guy, he was a younger brother of a school friend
What made you choose that person t... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Country & city:Reading, England
Name/nickname: Jonathan
Age: 34
Gender: Male
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Queer
How old were you when you first realized your identity? About 7 or 8
How old were you when you first told someone? 18
Did you plan it? If so, how? The BBC were making a
documentary about gay people coming out, I plucked up the courage to
tell one of the BBC people havin... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Batty
Country or City you are from: : South Africa
Your Age : 31
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Good hearted, friendly, outgoing and fun!
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 20
How old were you when you first told someone? : 22
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Nope, I didn’t plan to tell anyone.
What made you choose that person to tell? : She just made me feel so comforta... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : RiverGoddess
Country or City you are from: : Cape Town
Your Age : 42
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Extroverted Eccentric. Shaman living the Light as best she can.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 8
How old were you when you first told someone? : 28!
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I had been in a relationship for some time and needed to share my joy with someone close
... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country & city: Jozi, South Africa
Name/nickname: Tartan Jane
Age: 30
Gender: Female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered)? Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Creative, funny, mercurial, edgy.
How old were you when you first realized your identity? I have been aware of my “otherness” as far back as I can remember, even when I was too young to put that feeling into context.
How old were you when you first told someone? I think I may have been about 16 year... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Andy Finegan
Country or City you are from: : Brisbane Australia
Your Age : 40
Your Gender : male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : outrageously human
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 13
How old were you when you first told someone? : 20
Did you plan it? If so, how? : yes - was tired of hiding.
What made you choose that person to tell? : My sister is so important to me.
Can you remember exactly w... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Kitana
Country or City you are from: : Durban South Africa
Your Age : 23
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 21
How old were you when you first told someone? : 21
Did you plan it? If so, how? : It was planned. I fell
in love with my current partner and decided that I needed to confide in
her as well as with a few selected friends. My partner... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country & city: USA, Honolulu, Hawaii
Name/nickname: Marby aka Jurky aka Feel
Age: 25
Gender: Female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered)? I came out as a lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Queer, Androgynous
How old were you when you first realized your identity?
I was somewhere in preschool. I remember I had this ginormous crush on
this girl in my class. Even at that age, i knew I wanted to marry her.
How old were you when you first told someone? I was... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Pat
Country or City you are from: : Warrington, PA
Your Age : 51
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : mom
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : about 40
How old were you when you first told someone? : 44
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I didn’t specifically plan to tell, but I had laid out a lot of hints for about 3 months.
What made you choose that person to tell? : She was my ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Country & city: USA/ Phoenix, AZ
Name/nickname: Bobby
Age: 24
Gender: Male
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Gay
How old were you when you first realized your identity? 16
How old were you when you first told someone? 19
Did you plan it? If so, how? No, I was on a phone call with my cousin and I kind of slipped it into the conversation.
What made you choose that person to tell? She’s
not living near anyone in my family. She’s in Philadelphia... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Merline
Country or City you are from: : Jozi
Your Age : 41
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : impulsive, arrogant, sensitive and too bloody emotional
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 17
How old were you when you first told someone? : 19
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Not planned
What made you choose that person to tell? : I trusted her and she was my counsellor
Can you remembe... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Thomas (Planet Q TV)
Country or City you are from: : Chicago
Your Age : 39
Your Gender : male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : willing to help, caring, business minded, work-a-holic, stubborn, opinionated
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 16
How old were you when you first told someone? : 35
Did you plan it? If so, how? : No it wasn’t plan. I
told a childhood friend of mine who I lost contact ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Sally
Country or City you are from: : Johannesburg, South Africa
Your Age : 20
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 5
How old were you when you first told someone? : 18
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Not planned. Just slipped out.
What made you choose that person to tell? : She’s my best friend.
Can you remember exactly what you said? : Yes... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Araliya
Country or City you are from: :
Your Age : 29
Your Gender : cisgendered female
What did you come out as? : Bi
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : multilingual, independent, curious, friendly, unwilling to suffer fools, cussed, stubborn, honest, fearful, loving, happy
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 5
How old were you when you first told someone? : 18
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Not real... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
19
09
2008
These
days I almost feel sorry for straight people as they still seem to feel
the need to fit into a box and go through the motions of what society
expects from them.
Country & city: Chesterfield, England
Name/nickname: Craig Redihough
Age: 27
Gender: M
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered)? Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Anxious, Fiery, Loyal.
How old were you when you first realized your identity? 1... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Country & city: Chesterfield, England
Name/nickname: Craig Redihough
Age: 27
Gender: M
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered)? Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Anxious, Fiery, Loyal.
How old were you when you first realized your identity? 16
How old were you when you first told someone? 17
Did you plan it? If so, how? No, not planned at all.
What made you choose that person to tell? I was
extremely upset at the time and needed someone to talk to as the perso... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Graham Bucks
Country or City you are from: : Johannesburg, South Africa
Your Age : 37
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : I’m just your ordinary, nature loving, everyday, run of the mill city moffie.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 12 or 13
How old were you when you first told someone? : 15
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Yes I planned it.
What made you choose that person to te... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Bisexual
Country & city: Johannesburg
Name/nickname: TigerEyes
Age: 45
Gender: Femail
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered)? Lesbian / Gay / Bi
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Mother, Business Woman, Earth Angel
How old were you when you first realized your identity? ± 8
How old were you when you first told someone? 35
Did you plan it? If so, how? Very carefully
What made you choose that person to tell? She’d “caught” me on the Lesbian channels on the internet
... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country & city: South Africa/ JHB
Name/nickname: Anonymous
Age: 21
Gender: Female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Gay/ Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Girl, femme, outgoing, humorous, sometimes irresponsible…
How old were you when you first realized your identity?
I think I’m still struggling with this one in all honesty; I was
attracted to girls since a very young age but because I was so small
thought it was ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Jess
Country or City you are from: : Victoria, Australia
Your Age : 27
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : good listener….i’m a scorpio. that should answer most of the questions :)
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 17
How old were you when you first told someone? : 17
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Sure did…when i figured out i was gay i just wanted to tell the whole w... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : AJ
Country or City you are from: : USA
Your Age : 19
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : I would describe myself as femme; if you saw me and knew nothing about me, you probably wouldn’t know.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 12
How old were you when you first told someone? : 16
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I did not plan it at all! My best friend saw me absent-mindedly ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Queer
Name or Nick Name : Emily
Country or City you are from: : Portland, Maine, USA
Your Age : 21
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Queer
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : I use the term “butchfemme” because it fits me. also feisty, sarcastic, and I’m a definite Taurus (;
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : my whole life
How old were you when you first told someone? : 16
Did you plan it? If so, how? : In all of about 10
minutes. I jus... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Asexual
Name or Nick Name : Andrew
Country or City you are from: : St. Louis
Your Age : 25
Your Gender : male
What did you come out as? : Asexual
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 24
How old were you when you first told someone? : 24
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I hadn’t really planned
it. I was chatting on Skype with a girl who lives several states away
and the question issues of dating and relationships came up. I ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Bisexual
Name or Nick Name : Kari
Country or City you are from: : Denver
Your Age : 16
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Bi
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : on the “V” squad, gay
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 10
How old were you when you first told someone? : 11
Did you plan it? If so, how? : not really.
What made you choose that person to tell? : she was a good friend
Can you remember exactly what you said? : she first told me she w... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Asexual
Country & city: United States
Name/nickname: The Gray Lady
Age: 21
Gender: Female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Asexual
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Quiet, nerdy, smart, eccentric.
How old were you when you first realized your identity? About 16-17
How old were you when you first told someone? 17
Did you plan it? If so, how? No.
What made you choose that person to tell? He said he was asexual.
Can you remember exactly w... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Queer
Name or Nick Name : Massi
Country or City you are from: : Kuwait
Your Age : 27
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Queer
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Outgoing, Sex-on-legs, Tasty, Pastafarian and Difrancologist.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 5
How old were you when you first told someone? : 17
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Yes, I did. I went and
told a friend close to me that I was sure would not tell anyone. Also,
I used the t... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country & city: Jhb, South Africa
Name/nickname: Ace
Age: 21
Gender: Female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Quirky, passionate, determined, strong-willed, caring, me
How old were you when you first realized your identity? 18
How old were you when you first told someone? 18
Did you plan it? If so, how? No
What made you choose that person to tell? I was
heartbroken and confused after the... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Fixator
Country or City you are from: : Namibia
Your Age : 32
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Aries…that says it all!
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 12 - 13
How old were you when you first told someone? : 16
Did you plan it? If so, how? : No, I was basically caught making out with a guy!
What made you choose that person to tell? : She’s my sister. I trust her.
Can you r... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Asexual
Country & city: San Francisco, CA
Name/nickname: Ily
Age: 24
Gender: I wear pink
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Asexual
What other words would you use to describe yourself? I‘m not an enigma, just a contradiction.
How old were you when you first realized your identity? I was 20.
How old were you when you first told someone? I think I was also around 20.
Did you plan it? If so, how? I sort of planned it– I was waiting for a similar to... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country & city: Houston, Texas, USA
Name/nickname: Brianne/Brain
Age: 24
Gender: Female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Lesbo
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Grade A, Top Shelf, Premium, Crème de la crème, Delusional
How old were you when you first realized your identity? 12 or 13
How old were you when you first told someone? 16
Did you plan it? If so, how? Not really. Took a bottle of pills, figured I was gonna die anywa... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Bisexual
Name or Nick Name : RD
Country or City you are from: : Miami, FL (via Goldsboro, NC)
Your Age : 23
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Bi
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : accidental genderfuck, crossdresser
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 20
How old were you when you first told someone? : 20
Did you plan it? If so, how? : No.
What made you choose that person to tell? : I don’t know. At the time I told my casting a play that I was... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country & city: Australia
Name/nickname: Evecho
Age: 37
Gender: Female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself?
How old were you when you first realized your identity? I came out somewhere between 21 and 23 years.
How old were you when you first told someone? Pretty soon after I came out to myself.
Did you plan it? If so, how? Yes, but I can’t remember how.
What made you choose that person to... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Friday, February 27, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country: Australia
Name/nickname: Hellonhairylegs (HHL)
Age: 17
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Radical feminist
How old were you when you first realized your identity? I thought I *could* be bisexual at 14, accepted that I was a lesbian at 16
How old were you when you first told someone? 16
Did you plan it? If so, how? Yes, I planned to tell my
friends and siblings after I was sure I ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Friday, February 27, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country & city: United States, Miami
Name/nickname: Stacey
Age: 35
Gender: Female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered)? lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? stubborn, sarcastic, creative and giving.
How old were you when you first realized your identity?
very young, 11ish maybe. i just knew i liked girls, but i didn’t know
what that meant. i finally accepted the label of “lesbian” when i was
18.
How old were you when you first told someone? I
actua... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Friday, February 27, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Snaketat
Country or City you are from: : Salisbury, NC
Your Age : 53
Your Gender :
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
I am by most descriptions, an average middle aged businessman. Being
gay does not define me, but I don’t hide from it…too much.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : mid 20’s
How old were you when you first told someone? : early 40’s
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Not really pl... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Friday, February 27, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Brett Abrams
Country or City you are from: : Washington, DC
Your Age : 47
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Bohemian, adventurous,
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 24
How old were you when you first told someone? : 24
Did you plan it? If so, how? : no
What made you choose that person to tell? : they were someone I was in love with.
Can you remember exactly what you said? : I sa... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Friday, February 27, 2009,
In :
Bisexual
Name or Nick Name : Dru
Country or City you are from: : Canada
Your Age : 16 (turning 17 very soon)
Your Gender : female (mostly)
What did you come out as? : Bi
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : only those relating to the topic at hand: pansexual, fluid, queer, curious, varied, etc.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : I cannot remember
How old were you when you first told someone? : middle school (13-ish)
Did you plan it? If so, how? : No, I did not ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Friday, February 27, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Shay
Country or City you are from: : NC
Your Age : 17
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Introvertive Kid
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : About 8
How old were you when you first told someone? : 15
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I didn’t really plan it,but when I realized I was going to I did plan on how I was going to let them know.
What made you choose that person to tell?... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Friday, February 27, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : LaurynX
Country or City you are from: : USA
Your Age : 20
Your Gender : woman, femme
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What did you come out as? : Bi
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : black queer lesbian femme…
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 20
How old were you when you first told someone? : 20
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I came out as bi (I honestly thought I was bi at the time) on Valentines Day to my best friend. No... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Friday, February 27, 2009,
In :
Gay
Country & city: Fort Lauderdale, Florida USA
Name/nickname: James
Age: 38
Gender: Male
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Passionate
How old were you when you first realized your identity? 16
How old were you when you first told someone? 21
Did you plan it? If so, how? No
What made you choose that person to tell? Alcohol
Can you remember exactly what you said? “I think I’m Gay”
Ho... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Friday, February 27, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Meg
Country or City you are from: : USA
Your Age : 30
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : early 20’s I guess
How old were you when you first told someone? : officially? 29
Did you plan it? If so, how? : There were a few people
I told first. The very first one didn’t react so well. The next
couple were extremely supportive. I couldn’... Continue reading ...
Country & city: Cape Town, South Africa
Name/nickname: Charl Marais (Charmd)
Age: 50 (soon)
Gender: Male
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered)? First as Lesbian, but when I understood more I realized I was Transgendered and went into stealth mode.
How old were you when you first realized your identity? Very young
How old were you when you first told someone? Seventeen
Did you plan it? If so, how? No
What made you choose that person to tell? She was a Rape Crisis Counsellor
Can y... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Friday, February 27, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Meza
Country or City you are from: : Japan
Your Age : 22
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 12
How old were you when you first told someone? : 21
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I didn’t plan it. I was drunk and I told my friend, he is my professor actually.
What made you choose that person to tell? : I told him because he tought me a lot about ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Friday, February 27, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Elle
Country or City you are from: : USA
Your Age : 36
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 21
How old were you when you first told someone? : 26
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I didn’t plan it. I was going through a bad break-up and I told my sister.
What made you choose that person to tell? :It would explain why I was a mess.
Can you reme... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Friday, February 27, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Elaine
Country or City you are from: : England
Your Age : 18
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 17
How old were you when you first told someone? : 17 (I moved fast)
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Not really. It was a
very messy coming out because I spent a lot of time secretly thinking I
was bisexual between eleven and seventeen. But after ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Friday, February 27, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Jodi
Country or City you are from: : USA
Your Age : 31
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 28
How old were you when you first told someone? : 28
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I intentionally told my
best friend. I knew I could tell her, in fact it wasn’t a decision I
really had to make because I tell her everything and I didn’t worry
a... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Friday, February 27, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Bryan
Country or City you are from: : Little Rock, Arkansas
Your Age : 29 (When did I turn 29!!!)
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : I was once described as one of those rubber balls that bounces in different directions… I took it as a compliment.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : About 13
How old were you when you first told someone? : 22
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I was 2... Continue reading ...
Country & city: Norway, Tromsø
Name/nickname: Tarald Stein
Age: 30
Gender: TransMan
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Both as gay and transsexual
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Writer, mother, intellectual, poet
How old were you when you first realized your identity? It
sounds silly, but I first identified as gay when I was a teen. Just
couldn’t make sense of it because my body and everyone around me told
me I was a girl a... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Friday, February 27, 2009,
In :
Asexual
Name or Nick Name : Capncosmo
Country or City you are from: : USA
Your Age : 21
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : asexual
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Intelligent
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 20
How old were you when you first told someone? : 20
Did you plan it? If so, how? :
What made you choose that person to tell?
: I just had to tell someone. I felt like I was going to crawl out of
my skin keeping it to myself, and she... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Friday, February 27, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Gaz
Country or City you are from: : Pietermaritzburg, South Africa
Your Age : 29
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Normal, although somewhat non-conformist.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : Pre pubescent, like 8…
How old were you when you first told someone? : 16
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Sort of. I was involved with an older man. Told me he’d dump me if I didn’t “... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Tuesday, February 24, 2009,
In :
Bisexual
Country & city: USA, Central to So. Texas
Name/nickname: P.E.G.
Age: 42
Gender: Female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Bi
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Compassionate, accepting, non-judgmental, fun-loving, humorous
How old were you when you first realized your identity? Oh my, I'm 42! I can't recall! Though many women who aren't bi, like to see porn that involves women on women, I would say that is when I knew there was somethin... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Monday, February 23, 2009,
In :
Bisexual
Name or Nick Name : Karen
Country or City you are from: : Australia
Your Age : 31
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Bi
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 13
How old were you when you first told someone? : 19
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I think it just started to manifest more and more in my experience that I was probably speaking a lot about it indirectly
What made you choose that person to tell? :... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Monday, February 23, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : evie
Country or City you are from: : england
Your Age : 21
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : funny sarcastic loud and tall lol
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : not sure i think bout 11 or 12
How old were you when you first told someone? : 19
Did you plan it? If so, how? : no just hanging out
with my best mate and i said something that made her ask are you gay? i
didn’t ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Monday, February 23, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Bitsy
Country or City you are from: : Thunder Bay
Your Age : 23
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : label free
don’t date guys
i like girls
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 19
How old were you when you first told someone? : 19
Did you plan it? If so, how? : no its just sort of happened
What made you choose that person to tell? : i realized i had feelings for her
Can you r... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Monday, February 23, 2009,
In :
Gay
Country & city: USA, Atlanta, GA
Name/nickname: A Brown Girl
Age: 30
Gender: Female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? quirky, queer
How old were you when you first realized your identity?
I don’t think I truly realized it until I was 24, about 6 months after
I moved to Atlanta. I swear this city turns every curious woman gay! In
retrospect, I had gay tendencies as early as 8. I grew up in ... Continue reading ...
Name or Nick Name : TeeKay
Country or City you are from: : Thunder Bay
Your Age : 20
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Gay
What did you come out as? : Transgendered
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 19
How old were you when you first told someone? : 20
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Not really planned, just sort of happened.
What made you choose that person to tell? : I was drunk and it just sort of ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Monday, February 23, 2009,
In :
Bisexual
Name or Nick Name : Rainbow Amoeba
Country or City you are from: : Paris, France
Your Age : 23
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Bi
What did you come out as? : asexual
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 21
How old were you when you first told someone? : 21
Did you plan it? If so, how? : The first person I came
out to in person was one of my best friends. I hadn’t really planned to
tell him. I came o... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Monday, February 23, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Avik Cordeiro
Country or City you are from: : Los Angeles
Your Age : 19
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Fabulous
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 12
How old were you when you first told someone? : 17
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I planned to tell my best friend for about a year, over Instant Messaging.
What made you choose that person to tell? : I believed
that he knew I sh... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Monday, February 23, 2009,
In :
Bisexual
Name or Nick Name : Sasha
Country or City you are from: : USA
Your Age : 16
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Bi
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 15
How old were you when you first told someone? : 15
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Kind of. I called a
friend of mine and some how got on the topic of my best friend. She had
been hiding thing from me ever since I had started talking to a certain
boy. Af... Continue reading ...
Name or Nick Name : JP
Country or City you are from: : USA
Your Age : 16
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Transgendered
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
I am a musical cathartic kinda guy, ya know? Music is my outlet.
Sometimes I just bang around, being all bitter at the world, but
sometimes I actually make beautiful music.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 4
How old were you when you first told someone? : 15
Did you plan it? If so, ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Monday, February 23, 2009,
In :
Queer
Name or Nick Name : Jas
Country or City you are from: : Currently residing in Tampa
Your Age : 27
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Queer
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : (anti)intellectual, loving, quiet
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : very, very young
How old were you when you first told someone? : 22ish
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I was 26 when I told
the one person who mattered…my mother. One of my students had just lost
... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Monday, February 23, 2009,
In :
Queer
Name or Nick Name : Holly Hahn
Country or City you are from: : Columbus, Ohio
Your Age : 35
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Queer
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : breeder?
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 13
How old were you when you first told someone? : 15
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I didn’t really tell
anyone. I had kind of a secet life, I snuck into gay bars in Dayton and
made out with girls but pretended I was straight... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Monday, February 23, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Sohmakun
Country or City you are from: : Atlanta, GA
Your Age : 25
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Quiet, creative, kind and friendly.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 12
How old were you when you first told someone? : 15
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Yes, I just picked a
time when things were quiet and we were alone. I didn’t want anyone
else but my parents to know ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Monday, February 23, 2009,
In :
Bisexual
Name or Nick Name : Chelsea
Country or City you are from: : San Francisco
Your Age : 23
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Bi
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : around 14
How old were you when you first told someone? : around 14
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Well, I made out with
two of my female friends at the same time, so I guess you could call
that a “hi, I’m into chicks” introduction.
What ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Monday, February 23, 2009,
In :
Queer
Name or Nick Name : Alphafemme
Country or City you are from: : San Francisco
Your Age : 22
Your Gender : cis-woman
What did you come out as? : Queer
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : dyke, homo, lesbian, gay
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 18
How old were you when you first told someone? : 18
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Nope, no plan. I had
just started college so it just sorta became another thing people
learned about me right off the bat. I ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Monday, February 23, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : John
Country or City you are from: : San Luis Obispo, CA
Your Age : 19
Your Gender : male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : around 16
How old were you when you first told someone? : 16
Did you plan it? If so, how? :
I wanted to tell someone for a while, but just really wasn’t sure who
or how. It sucked because I was terrified of everybody figuring me out,
but I ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Monday, February 23, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Kevin
Country or City you are from: : San Francisco
Your Age : 33
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : teens/young
How old were you when you first told someone? : 33
Did you plan it? If so, how? : My friend took me to a
movie and dinner for my birthday. We went to see Sex and the City.
Afterward we went to have dinner at California Pizza Kitchen... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Monday, February 23, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Hannes
Country or City you are from: : Pretoria, South Africa
Your Age : 20
Your Gender : male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : the boy next door, covered in glitter…
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : about 14
How old were you when you first told someone? : 15
Did you plan it? If so, how? : not realy, but it wasn’t all by accident, I wanted people to find out I guess
What made you choose that... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Monday, February 23, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Krash Test
Country or City you are from: : Canada
Your Age : 15
Your Gender : Somewhere In Between
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Totally F***ing Awesome
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : Somewhere between 10-13
How old were you when you first told someone? : 13
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Not really. I remember
being on the phone with my friend for two hours, and her not really
knowing ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Monday, February 23, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Phunkybrat
Country or City you are from: : Toronto
Your Age : 31
Your Gender :
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : creative, dedicated, intelligent
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 12
How old were you when you first told someone? : 19
Did you plan it? If so, how? : The first time I came
out it sort of just slipped out but when I officially came out (a few
years later) I made sure I knew a) what I w... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Claudine
Country or City you are from: : Nottingham,U.K.
Your Age : 33
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : A musician!!
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : always knew
How old were you when you first told someone? : 20
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I kind of went through the i’m bisexual stage which. Lying to myself.
Once I told all my friends, work collegues, family.
They ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Hot-zn ( cale hoare )
Country or City you are from: : South Africa, Durban
Your Age : 24
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : One of a kind…! Just got to meet me..!!!
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 15
How old were you when you first told someone? : 16
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Nope
What made you choose that person to tell? : Only gay friend at the time
Can you remember e... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Bisexual
Name or Nick Name : Virginia
Country or City you are from: : Birmingham, UK
Your Age : 24
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Bi
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Quiet, stubborn, dense, private, creative, hesitant, liberal, bibliophile
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 21
How old were you when you first told someone? : 21
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Embarassingly it took a
queer friend of mine to tell me I was bi before I was able ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : WendySkeleton
Country or City you are from: : Australia
Your Age : 18
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : The next Wonder Woman.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 15
How old were you when you first told someone? : 15
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I was talking on MSN
with my buddies, and then I just asked them what they thought of
queers. The friends I were talking to said they... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Calum
Country or City you are from: : South Africa
Your Age : 24
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Driven, ambitious, go-getter,
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 14
How old were you when you first told someone? : 17
Did you plan it? If so, how? : No I didn’t plan it. I was bust with another boy at school……. quite traumatic, I phoned my sister and it all came out.
What mad... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Zachary Voase
Country or City you are from: : Marbella, Spain
Your Age : 16
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Effeminate, Academic, Passionate.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 10
How old were you when you first told someone? : 14
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Not at all!
What made you choose that person to tell? : There were
a couple of things. That day, I had heard some frie... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Shirley
hasn’t actually come out yet, but I thought her story was relevant to
this project because it seems to be part of her process - as does her
blog. Good luck with it Shirley and please do the interview again when
you’ve come out offline too. Thanks. Ulla
Country & city: Australia, Sydney
Name/nickname: Shirley (pseudonym)
Age:19
Gender:F
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Will come out as gay.
What other words would you use to de... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Sk8bod T
Country or City you are from: : Mbabane,Swaziland
Your Age : 20
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Funny, women-adorer, boi
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 14 or so
How old were you when you first told someone? : recently havnt bn hidin it
Did you plan it? If so, how? : no, ddnt plan it.
actually hvnt rly told any1 bt i ges pple always figure it out,bt then
i nev... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country & city: Wheeling Wv USA
Name/nickname: Kelli (wvhillcountry)
Age: 36
Gender: female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? I am gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Serious, funny, lovable, caring
How old were you when you first realized your identity? as a young kid, but it took many years to admit it to myself.
How old were you when you first told someone? 33
Did you plan it? If so, how? No but it was with my best friend ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Bisexual
Country & city:los angeles, ca
Name/nickname:dre
Age:21
Gender:male
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)?bi when i was 17
What other words would you use to describe yourself?unique, one of a kind, a trade mark
How old were you when you first realized your identity?i questioned since 7th grade but was sure and comfortable when 16
How old were you when you first told someone?17
Did you plan it? If so, how?yes, a few days before prom-it was a bi event. 8... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country & city: South Africa, Jozi
Name/nickname: Melissa
Age: 36
Gender: Female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Tall, practical, funny, sometimes unreasonable but mostly fair, pretty smart.
How old were you when you first realized your identity? 31 (gay identity)
How old were you when you first told someone? 31
Did you plan it? If so, how? No
What made you choose that person to tell? She ... Continue reading ...
Country & city: The Netherlands, Nijmegen
Name/nickname: Sophie
Age: 26
Gender: female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? transgender
What other words would you use to describe yourself? individual, woman, lesbian, friend daughter, sister, grand-daughter, student, liberal, activist, European, cosmopolitan,
How old were you when you first realized your identity? about 9 years old
How old were you when you first told someone? at age 20
Did you plan... Continue reading ...
Country & city: The Netherlands, Nijmegen
Name/nickname: Sophie
Age: 26
Gender: female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? transgender
What other words would you use to describe yourself? individual, woman, lesbian, friend daughter, sister, grand-daughter, student, liberal, activist, European, cosmopolitan,
How old were you when you first realized your identity? about 9 years old
How old were you when you first told someone? at age 20
Did you plan... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country & city: South Africa, Jozi
Name/nickname: Bernie
Age: 36
Gender: Female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Bi/Gay/somewhere in between – didn’t want to label myself
What other words would you use to describe yourself? a woman, an environmentalist, quirky, almost always late, private
How old were you when you first realized your identity? Somewhere between 28 and 30
How old were you when you first told someone? 28
Did you plan it? If so... Continue reading ...
Name or Nick Name : Samanth0r
Country or City you are from: : Australia
Your Age : 23
Your Gender : Trans Womyn
What did you come out as? : Transgendered
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Queer. I love that word.
Lesbian.
Dyke. This is actually my main identification.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : around 19
How old were you when you first told someone? : Not till I was 21
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Well its a long story but I took my parent... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Vee
Country or City you are from: : South Africa
Your Age : 36
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : human
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 13
How old were you when you first told someone? : 27
Did you plan it? If so, how? : No plans, i think i externally and internally combusted after repressing it for so long.
What made you choose that person to tell? : As i said
i didn’t... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Michelle
Country or City you are from: : Johannesburg
Your Age : 33
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Human Being. South African. Woman. Partner.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 24
How old were you when you first told someone? : 24
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I didn’t really plan
it, I was in a group type workshop and I’d been thinking maybe I was
and it kind of c... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Jo
Country or City you are from: : Johannesburg
Your Age : 34
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : A mom - it defines so much of my life. Creative. Intelligent. Amusing. Optimistic. Enjoyable. Warm. Nurturing.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 23
How old were you when you first told someone? : 23
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I told my boyfriend at
the time that I was very a... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Steven
Country or City you are from: : Chicagoland
Your Age : 40
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Human, compassionate
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 14
How old were you when you first told someone? : 25 (first heterosexual told)
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Yes. Mom and Dad invited me over for dinner every Sunday. And every Sunday she would ask, “Do you have any girlfri... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Emily
Country or City you are from: : Johannesburg
Your Age : 29
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Woman, Feminist
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 15
How old were you when you first told someone? : 20
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I had a close friend at
university who was a gay man, we were both in the process of coming
out, he had come out to me previously and so I de... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Queer
Name or Nick Name : Birdie
Country or City you are from: : USA
Your Age : 54
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Queer
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Came out as bi at 13 or so.
Came out as dyke at 52, and queer at 53.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 12
How old were you when you first told someone? : 13
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I was having sex with
girls (but not boys) during 5 - 7th grades. We moved from the US to
Iran whe... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Gaygirl
Country or City you are from: : Middelburg
Your Age : 21
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Outgoing and fun person who lives life to the extreme and tries never to hold a grudge
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 15
How old were you when you first told someone? : 16
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Well… to a certain
extent. See I fell madly in love with a girl one ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Heterosexual
I want to thank Saroj for having the heart and balls to do this interview. Please read her blog entry about it too.
Country & city: U.S., New York
Name/nickname: Saroj
Gender: Female
What other words would you use to describe yourself? Straight, but not closed-minded.
If you’ve experienced homophobia etc, please give an example.
Not personally, but I’ve seen rampant homophobia. What irritates me
the most is the tossing around of the term “gay” or “fag” as though it
some sort of... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Pink_Princess
Country or City you are from: : durban
Your Age : 37
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : I am a human being,who just happens to be a lesbian
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : age 9
How old were you when you first told someone? : 20
Did you plan it? If so, how? : well I tried to plan
it,but there were circumstances that lead me to spew out myself. I had
2 very c... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : jamie
Country or City you are from: : kansas city
Your Age : 24
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as?: Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : foward,honest,and sweet!
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 15
How old were you when you first told someone? : 23
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I did not plan it. my mother confronted me. I was shocked but I told her the truth
What made you choose that person to tell? : I was t... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Bisexual
Name or Nick Name : The Road Less Travelled
Country or City you are from: : Los Angeles, USA
Your Age : 33
Your Gender : Female
What did you come out as? : Bi
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 30
How old were you when you first told someone? : 30
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I didn’t really plan
it. I was driving with my brother and was asking him about his love
life. He then told me he was seeing someone, bu... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Bisexual
Name or Nick Name : Danielle
Country or City you are from: : California, USA
Your Age : 20
Your Gender : female
What did you come out as? : Bi
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : empathetic, intelligent, and ridiculous
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 13
How old were you when you first told someone? : 14
Did you plan it? If so, how? : No, not at all
What made you choose that person to tell? : It sort of happened randomly
Can you remember exactly wha... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Bisexual
Name or Nick Name : “ Switch-Hitter“
Country or City you are from: : USA
Your Age : 23
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Bi
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
I am adventurous, always looking for something fun to do. I can be a
nut, especially when it come to sports (which I consider myself to be
athletic in) and Judy Garland (whom I obsessively collect memorabilia
of), among other people. I am also a poet, and I deal with my sexuality
by writing poems with... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Gay
Name or Nick Name : Josh
Country or City you are from: : Snellville, GA, USA
Your Age : 20
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
I’m an intelligent guy, I suppose, but I never like to take myself too
seriously. You only live once, so I try to experience whatever I want.
I like to think I’m rather laid back, most of my nights are spent just
relaxing with my friends, boyfriend, or watching a movie.
How old were you when you... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, February 22, 2009,
In :
Lesbian
Country & city: Johannesburg, South Africa
Name/nickname: Natasha (Tasha)
Age:28
Gender: Female
What did you come out as (gay, bi, transgendered, use any terms you like here)? Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? I love being referred to as a dyke ;o)
How old were you when you first realized your identity? 14
How old were you when you first told someone? 24
Did you plan it? If so, how? I was sick of trying to be someone I’m not to please others so no … there were no si... Continue reading ...
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