Sethboy
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009
Under: Gay
Name or Nick Name : Sethboy
Country or City you are from: : New Jersey, USA
Your Age : 32
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Stay-Puft Marshmallow
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 15 ??
How old were you when you first told someone? : 19
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Yes. Just planned to have a serious talk - in the car while driving with Mom...
What made you choose that person to tell? : Because she's the most important person in my life...
Can you remember exactly what you said? : Unfortunately, no. But it was just a general "Mom, I have something important to tell you, I'm gay, I like boys" sort of thing, I guess.
How did you feel? : Fine. Perhaps a little nervous?
What was the person’s reaction? : She was very accepting, and calm. No surprise...
What did they say? : Mom told me, as long as I would be safe and happy, she loved me...
What was your relationship with the person like afterwards? : Just as close...
What’s it like now? : Still just as close!!! In fact she's a nag - anyone want a great Mom? :)
If you’ve been outed unwillingly, who did it? : N/A
What happened? : N/A
What were peoples’ reactions? : YOU are gay? No way. I had no idea!!
If you’ve experienced homophobia etc, please give an example. : Fortunately, no. Although one time I was driving (rainbow sticker proudly on the back bumper) and I heard some guys pass me and I think shout "hey fag", but just barely.
Since coming out how out are you at school? : all_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you at work? : all_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with family? : all_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with your friends? : all_out
What does being out mean to you? : **Above, except Grandma. All though she finally stopped asking when I was getting married. Being out, is not hiding who I am, or who I like. Or who I like to drool over!!
What differences, if any, did your cultural background make to your experience of coming out? : Nothing cultural per se, but in my own mind, up until coming out, I always believed (or tried to convince myself) that "once I got to college" I would become normal and stop being a pervert, and find a girl and get married". That never happened.
What does the concept of the closet mean to you? : See above.
What advice would you give someone wanting to come out? : Todays world is SO MUCH different than it was even 10 or 15 years ago. The internet has made a HUGE difference in how (and when) people come out. Teens are coming out at 14 or 15 - and even though its a great and wonderful thing, it can have consequences. Kids are often too eager and don't think things through. But, it is an amazing thing when you are able to begin to accept yourself.
If you could do it all again, would you do it any differently? If so, how? : Probably would have come out in high school, instead of after.
Country or City you are from: : New Jersey, USA
Your Age : 32
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : Stay-Puft Marshmallow
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 15 ??
How old were you when you first told someone? : 19
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Yes. Just planned to have a serious talk - in the car while driving with Mom...
What made you choose that person to tell? : Because she's the most important person in my life...
Can you remember exactly what you said? : Unfortunately, no. But it was just a general "Mom, I have something important to tell you, I'm gay, I like boys" sort of thing, I guess.
How did you feel? : Fine. Perhaps a little nervous?
What was the person’s reaction? : She was very accepting, and calm. No surprise...
What did they say? : Mom told me, as long as I would be safe and happy, she loved me...
What was your relationship with the person like afterwards? : Just as close...
What’s it like now? : Still just as close!!! In fact she's a nag - anyone want a great Mom? :)
If you’ve been outed unwillingly, who did it? : N/A
What happened? : N/A
What were peoples’ reactions? : YOU are gay? No way. I had no idea!!
If you’ve experienced homophobia etc, please give an example. : Fortunately, no. Although one time I was driving (rainbow sticker proudly on the back bumper) and I heard some guys pass me and I think shout "hey fag", but just barely.
Since coming out how out are you at school? : all_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you at work? : all_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with family? : all_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with your friends? : all_out
What does being out mean to you? : **Above, except Grandma. All though she finally stopped asking when I was getting married. Being out, is not hiding who I am, or who I like. Or who I like to drool over!!
What differences, if any, did your cultural background make to your experience of coming out? : Nothing cultural per se, but in my own mind, up until coming out, I always believed (or tried to convince myself) that "once I got to college" I would become normal and stop being a pervert, and find a girl and get married". That never happened.
What does the concept of the closet mean to you? : See above.
What advice would you give someone wanting to come out? : Todays world is SO MUCH different than it was even 10 or 15 years ago. The internet has made a HUGE difference in how (and when) people come out. Teens are coming out at 14 or 15 - and even though its a great and wonderful thing, it can have consequences. Kids are often too eager and don't think things through. But, it is an amazing thing when you are able to begin to accept yourself.
If you could do it all again, would you do it any differently? If so, how? : Probably would have come out in high school, instead of after.
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