Queen Sal of Lesbesquet
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009
Under: Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : Queen Sal of Lesbesquet
Country or City you are from: : Motown, Hitsville, USA
Your Age : 55
Your Gender : meta gendered Womyn
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : To be perfectly honest, Y am goD, or Dog, as you prefer. So are you, but if you don’t think so - could it be that you just don’t want the responsibility?
Oh, and spelling does not apply to ME. Yet, everything Y do is a spell. Go figure.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 23
How old were you when you first told someone? : 23
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Y was married at age 17 to a guy and eventually Y started sobbing after we would do ‘it’. In an effort to figure out what was ‘wrong’ with ME so as not to continue hurting his feelings, one day Y noticed that Y was reading playboy magazine and could possibly be happier with a woman. Y had been with lots of women before, but only one time in the context of two women having sexual congress. And it was pretty bad. So Y guess Y put it on the the back burner. ha ha. For a couple of years.
What made you choose that person to tell? : He was MY husband, so it seemed only fair to let him in on the fact.
Can you remember exactly what you said? : “Y’m a dyke, and we gotta get divorced.”
Y am so glad Y never said, “Y love you, but Y’m just not in love with you.”
How did you feel? : Relieved, scared, curious, happy, sad, and ready to roll.
What was the person’s reaction? : He seemed surprised, if not shocked and he tried to make ME not be with anyone else until we were seperated. Since we were with all sorts of people together before this, it didn’t make any sense to ME and the first thing Y did was pork the girl next door.
What did they say? :
What was your relationship with the person like afterwards? : After he got done pouting about the girl next door, it was quite friendly. Like, he became MY best friend until Y left the area.
What’s it like now? : Y don’t know where he is, but Y would really like to reconnect with him.
If you’ve experienced homophobia etc, please give an example. : Y live in a small town and MY Consort is a small town girl, so WE get dissed a lot. But when Y lyved in San Francisco 25 years ago, Y got in a lot of physical or verbal fights with haters, so Y just deal with whatever is going on. It helps when You know You are the Dog goD. Plus, to protect MYself or an innocent, Y will kill a Mother f****r.
Since coming out how out are you at school? : all_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you at work? : all_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with family? : all_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with your friends? : all_out
What does being out mean to you? : Being MYSelf.
What differences, if any, did your cultural background make to your experience of coming out? : Y bennefit from white privilige, a good kathlix education, and a fascility with words - even though Y know WE are ALL Afrycan, whitey racist don’t know and that’s an advantage many don’t have. Also, Y know that things are much harder for folks in many ccountries, especially the tho ones whose governments proclaim official religions.
What does the concept of the closet mean to you? : Hiding in a rotting box of damp mold.
What advice would you give someone wanting to come out? : Be Strong, Be Confident, Be Careful
If you could do it all again, would you do it any differently? If so, how? :
Anything you want to add? : MY Whole Name: Cayann, Queen Sal of Lesbesquet
Country or City you are from: : Motown, Hitsville, USA
Your Age : 55
Your Gender : meta gendered Womyn
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : To be perfectly honest, Y am goD, or Dog, as you prefer. So are you, but if you don’t think so - could it be that you just don’t want the responsibility?
Oh, and spelling does not apply to ME. Yet, everything Y do is a spell. Go figure.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 23
How old were you when you first told someone? : 23
Did you plan it? If so, how? : Y was married at age 17 to a guy and eventually Y started sobbing after we would do ‘it’. In an effort to figure out what was ‘wrong’ with ME so as not to continue hurting his feelings, one day Y noticed that Y was reading playboy magazine and could possibly be happier with a woman. Y had been with lots of women before, but only one time in the context of two women having sexual congress. And it was pretty bad. So Y guess Y put it on the the back burner. ha ha. For a couple of years.
What made you choose that person to tell? : He was MY husband, so it seemed only fair to let him in on the fact.
Can you remember exactly what you said? : “Y’m a dyke, and we gotta get divorced.”
Y am so glad Y never said, “Y love you, but Y’m just not in love with you.”
How did you feel? : Relieved, scared, curious, happy, sad, and ready to roll.
What was the person’s reaction? : He seemed surprised, if not shocked and he tried to make ME not be with anyone else until we were seperated. Since we were with all sorts of people together before this, it didn’t make any sense to ME and the first thing Y did was pork the girl next door.
What did they say? :
What was your relationship with the person like afterwards? : After he got done pouting about the girl next door, it was quite friendly. Like, he became MY best friend until Y left the area.
What’s it like now? : Y don’t know where he is, but Y would really like to reconnect with him.
If you’ve experienced homophobia etc, please give an example. : Y live in a small town and MY Consort is a small town girl, so WE get dissed a lot. But when Y lyved in San Francisco 25 years ago, Y got in a lot of physical or verbal fights with haters, so Y just deal with whatever is going on. It helps when You know You are the Dog goD. Plus, to protect MYself or an innocent, Y will kill a Mother f****r.
Since coming out how out are you at school? : all_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you at work? : all_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with family? : all_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with your friends? : all_out
What does being out mean to you? : Being MYSelf.
What differences, if any, did your cultural background make to your experience of coming out? : Y bennefit from white privilige, a good kathlix education, and a fascility with words - even though Y know WE are ALL Afrycan, whitey racist don’t know and that’s an advantage many don’t have. Also, Y know that things are much harder for folks in many ccountries, especially the tho ones whose governments proclaim official religions.
What does the concept of the closet mean to you? : Hiding in a rotting box of damp mold.
What advice would you give someone wanting to come out? : Be Strong, Be Confident, Be Careful
If you could do it all again, would you do it any differently? If so, how? :
Anything you want to add? : MY Whole Name: Cayann, Queen Sal of Lesbesquet
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