Meza
Posted by ulla on Friday, February 27, 2009
Under: Gay
Name or Nick Name : Meza
Country or City you are from: : Japan
Your Age : 22
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 12
How old were you when you first told someone? : 21
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I didn’t plan it. I was drunk and I told my friend, he is my professor actually.
What made you choose that person to tell? : I told him because he tought me a lot about sexuality. Also, I really loved him and believed him.
Can you remember exactly what you said? : Meza “Can you guess my sexuality?”
Professor “I don’t care.”
Meza “um,,,I’m gay!!!”
Professor “I think you already know, me too.”
How did you feel? : That was a fantastic moment for me. However, I didn’t feel so good after the coming out because I still had internal homophobia at the time.
What was the person’s reaction? : He was very calm, and it made me a bit upset.
What did they say? : He said “I can’t be a friend as a gay with you, yet I will support you.”
He said that because he didn’t want to go to gay bars with students.
What was your relationship with the person like afterwards? : A professor and a student.
What’s it like now? : We are still like a professor and a student.
If you’ve been outed unwillingly, who did it? : My straight friend has done that to me.
What happened? : He told everyone at the party when he was drunk, yet my friends accepted. However, I was angry at him next day and he said sorry to me.
What were peoples’ reactions? : They were fine, they accepted me and they are still calling me sometimes.
If you’ve experienced homophobia etc, please give an example. : When I made a queer group at my university, the stuff of university said the group shouldn’t be there because it is like a gay group. I will talk about it on the blog soon.
Since coming out how out are you at school? : only_friends
Since coming out, how “out” are you at work? : only_friends
Since coming out, how “out” are you with family? : partly_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with your friends? : only_friends
What does being out mean to you? : For me, being out as “gay” is like doing activism because I don’t really identify me to gay.
I usually just say “I like guys and I have sex with guys.” now. Also, I think I have more possiblity in sexuality.
What differences, if any, did your cultural background make to your experience of coming out? : Japanese people don’t have so strong homophobia, yet the society like to hide everything sexual. It made my coming out difficult.
What does the concept of the closet mean to you? : For me, being closet means I’m getting some benefits from there.
If there are no benefits, I will be open.
What advice would you give someone wanting to come out? : 1, Take it easy. You don’t have to be open if you are unconfortable.
2, Have knowledge about yourself. The knowledge will protect you when you face some homophobia.
3, After coming out, make more time to talk to your friends or family. Coming out is only a start.
If you could do it all again, would you do it any differently? If so, how? : I like my first coming out, so I wanna keep it.
Anything you want to add? : I think it’s enough, come to our blog and check my coming out stories and many interesting articles!
Country or City you are from: : Japan
Your Age : 22
Your Gender : Male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? :
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 12
How old were you when you first told someone? : 21
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I didn’t plan it. I was drunk and I told my friend, he is my professor actually.
What made you choose that person to tell? : I told him because he tought me a lot about sexuality. Also, I really loved him and believed him.
Can you remember exactly what you said? : Meza “Can you guess my sexuality?”
Professor “I don’t care.”
Meza “um,,,I’m gay!!!”
Professor “I think you already know, me too.”
How did you feel? : That was a fantastic moment for me. However, I didn’t feel so good after the coming out because I still had internal homophobia at the time.
What was the person’s reaction? : He was very calm, and it made me a bit upset.
What did they say? : He said “I can’t be a friend as a gay with you, yet I will support you.”
He said that because he didn’t want to go to gay bars with students.
What was your relationship with the person like afterwards? : A professor and a student.
What’s it like now? : We are still like a professor and a student.
If you’ve been outed unwillingly, who did it? : My straight friend has done that to me.
What happened? : He told everyone at the party when he was drunk, yet my friends accepted. However, I was angry at him next day and he said sorry to me.
What were peoples’ reactions? : They were fine, they accepted me and they are still calling me sometimes.
If you’ve experienced homophobia etc, please give an example. : When I made a queer group at my university, the stuff of university said the group shouldn’t be there because it is like a gay group. I will talk about it on the blog soon.
Since coming out how out are you at school? : only_friends
Since coming out, how “out” are you at work? : only_friends
Since coming out, how “out” are you with family? : partly_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with your friends? : only_friends
What does being out mean to you? : For me, being out as “gay” is like doing activism because I don’t really identify me to gay.
I usually just say “I like guys and I have sex with guys.” now. Also, I think I have more possiblity in sexuality.
What differences, if any, did your cultural background make to your experience of coming out? : Japanese people don’t have so strong homophobia, yet the society like to hide everything sexual. It made my coming out difficult.
What does the concept of the closet mean to you? : For me, being closet means I’m getting some benefits from there.
If there are no benefits, I will be open.
What advice would you give someone wanting to come out? : 1, Take it easy. You don’t have to be open if you are unconfortable.
2, Have knowledge about yourself. The knowledge will protect you when you face some homophobia.
3, After coming out, make more time to talk to your friends or family. Coming out is only a start.
If you could do it all again, would you do it any differently? If so, how? : I like my first coming out, so I wanna keep it.
Anything you want to add? : I think it’s enough, come to our blog and check my coming out stories and many interesting articles!
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