LaurynX
Posted by ulla on Friday, February 27, 2009
Under: Lesbian
Name or Nick Name : LaurynX
Country or City you are from: : USA
Your Age : 20
Your Gender : woman, femme
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What did you come out as? : Bi
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : black queer lesbian femme…
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 20
How old were you when you first told someone? : 20
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I came out as bi (I honestly thought I was bi at the time) on Valentines Day to my best friend. No, I didn’t plan it.
What made you choose that person to tell? : She was my best friend, and I knew she wouldn’t freak.
Can you remember exactly what you said? : I’m “confused” about my sexuality, I think I like women.
How did you feel? : Awkward. Exposed.
What was the person’s reaction? : Calmness, very chatty…we were both unusually chatty about non-particular things…
What did they say?: You don’t have to feel awkward or weird about it with me. I’m your friend.
What was your relationship with the person like afterwards? : The same.
What’s it like now? : Less contact and conversation (though this is due to other reasons, not my sexuality).
If you’ve been outed unwillingly, who did it? : I guess I unwittingly outed myself by hanging out on online lesbian sites. My father backtracked to the sites and asked me about them.
What happened? : We talked. I told him I thought I was bi. We talked some more. He hugged me and told me he loved me.
What were peoples’ reactions? : For the first time in my life, from my mother, I heard the term “homophobia” come out of her mouth in a conversation a few days later…I took it as a sign that she supported me.
If you’ve experienced homophobia etc, please give an example. :
Since coming out how out are you at school? : not_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you at work? : not_applicable
Since coming out, how “out” are you with family? : partly_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with your friends? : only_friends
What does being out mean to you? :
What differences, if any, did your cultural background make to your experience of coming out? : Learning about the black lesbian community. Before I came out I’d only seen the predominantly white lesbian community(ies). They are who are represented in the media more (even if it’s only marginal).
What does the concept of the closet mean to you? : Having people not know a huge part of who you are and how you love.
What advice would you give someone wanting to come out? : Do so at your own pace, but do so eventually.
If you could do it all again, would you do it any differently? If so, how? : I’d tell my friend that I was gay, not bi. …I still haven’t corrected that change yet.
Country or City you are from: : USA
Your Age : 20
Your Gender : woman, femme
What did you come out as? : Lesbian
What did you come out as? : Bi
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : black queer lesbian femme…
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 20
How old were you when you first told someone? : 20
Did you plan it? If so, how? : I came out as bi (I honestly thought I was bi at the time) on Valentines Day to my best friend. No, I didn’t plan it.
What made you choose that person to tell? : She was my best friend, and I knew she wouldn’t freak.
Can you remember exactly what you said? : I’m “confused” about my sexuality, I think I like women.
How did you feel? : Awkward. Exposed.
What was the person’s reaction? : Calmness, very chatty…we were both unusually chatty about non-particular things…
What did they say?: You don’t have to feel awkward or weird about it with me. I’m your friend.
What was your relationship with the person like afterwards? : The same.
What’s it like now? : Less contact and conversation (though this is due to other reasons, not my sexuality).
If you’ve been outed unwillingly, who did it? : I guess I unwittingly outed myself by hanging out on online lesbian sites. My father backtracked to the sites and asked me about them.
What happened? : We talked. I told him I thought I was bi. We talked some more. He hugged me and told me he loved me.
What were peoples’ reactions? : For the first time in my life, from my mother, I heard the term “homophobia” come out of her mouth in a conversation a few days later…I took it as a sign that she supported me.
If you’ve experienced homophobia etc, please give an example. :
Since coming out how out are you at school? : not_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you at work? : not_applicable
Since coming out, how “out” are you with family? : partly_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with your friends? : only_friends
What does being out mean to you? :
What differences, if any, did your cultural background make to your experience of coming out? : Learning about the black lesbian community. Before I came out I’d only seen the predominantly white lesbian community(ies). They are who are represented in the media more (even if it’s only marginal).
What does the concept of the closet mean to you? : Having people not know a huge part of who you are and how you love.
What advice would you give someone wanting to come out? : Do so at your own pace, but do so eventually.
If you could do it all again, would you do it any differently? If so, how? : I’d tell my friend that I was gay, not bi. …I still haven’t corrected that change yet.
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