James Rowntree
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009
Under: Gay
Name or Nick Name : james rowntree
Country or City you are from: : cape town
Your Age : 35
Your Gender : male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : straight acting normal gay guy
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 13
How old were you when you first told someone? : 22
Did you plan it? If so, how? : yes i planned it, i only new one other gay guy, he was a younger brother of a school friend
What made you choose that person to tell? : he was gay
Can you remember exactly what you said? : i went to his house, nocked on the door and said i was here to see said person, which was weird ,cause i was friends with his older brother, and i went up to his room and told him i though / new i was gay and what do i do
How did you feel? : fucking nervous
What was the person’s reaction? : totally relaxed , but i could see he was very surprised
What did they say? : he just told me to carry on life as normal,just go out and explore the gay side of life
What was your relationship with the person like afterwards? : we were never close, so it didn’t change
What’s it like now? : we still have contact
If you’ve been outed unwillingly, who did it? : nope
What happened? : n/a
What were peoples’ reactions? : n/a
If you’ve experienced homophobia etc, please give an example. : never
Since coming out how out are you at school? : not_applicable
Since coming out, how “out” are you at work? : all_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with family? : all_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with your friends? : all_out
What does being out mean to you? : to be myself, and not live a lie
What differences, if any, did your cultural background make to your experience of coming out? : none
What does the concept of the closet mean to you? : not been out,,,,living a lie
What advice would you give someone wanting to come out? : once u do come out , u realise u r not the only GAY in the world, its a great relief
If you could do it all again, would you do it any differently? If so, how? : yes,,,i would have come out at 16 and not 21
Anything you want to add? : be youself
Country or City you are from: : cape town
Your Age : 35
Your Gender : male
What did you come out as? : Gay
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : straight acting normal gay guy
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : 13
How old were you when you first told someone? : 22
Did you plan it? If so, how? : yes i planned it, i only new one other gay guy, he was a younger brother of a school friend
What made you choose that person to tell? : he was gay
Can you remember exactly what you said? : i went to his house, nocked on the door and said i was here to see said person, which was weird ,cause i was friends with his older brother, and i went up to his room and told him i though / new i was gay and what do i do
How did you feel? : fucking nervous
What was the person’s reaction? : totally relaxed , but i could see he was very surprised
What did they say? : he just told me to carry on life as normal,just go out and explore the gay side of life
What was your relationship with the person like afterwards? : we were never close, so it didn’t change
What’s it like now? : we still have contact
If you’ve been outed unwillingly, who did it? : nope
What happened? : n/a
What were peoples’ reactions? : n/a
If you’ve experienced homophobia etc, please give an example. : never
Since coming out how out are you at school? : not_applicable
Since coming out, how “out” are you at work? : all_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with family? : all_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with your friends? : all_out
What does being out mean to you? : to be myself, and not live a lie
What differences, if any, did your cultural background make to your experience of coming out? : none
What does the concept of the closet mean to you? : not been out,,,,living a lie
What advice would you give someone wanting to come out? : once u do come out , u realise u r not the only GAY in the world, its a great relief
If you could do it all again, would you do it any differently? If so, how? : yes,,,i would have come out at 16 and not 21
Anything you want to add? : be youself
In : Gay
