Name or Nick Name : Dru
Country or City you are from: : Canada
Your Age : 16 (turning 17 very soon)
Your Gender : female (mostly)
What did you come out as? : Bi
What other words would you use to describe yourself? : only those relating to the topic at hand: pansexual, fluid, queer, curious, varied, etc.
How old were you when you first realised your identity? : I cannot remember
How old were you when you first told someone? : middle school (13-ish)
Did you plan it? If so, how? : No, I did not plan it at all. I just blurted out without think first that I might be gay to a few peers. I had never even really articulated that to myself before. After wards I felt the need to explain myself and said I was higher than a 1 on the Kinsey scale (I had to explain what that was) but that I was not gay. . .
What made you choose that person to tell? : As I said, it was completely spur of the moment.
Can you remember exactly what you said? : No.
How did you feel? : Confused.
What was the person’s reaction? : I do not remember, I was busy trying to change the subject.
What did they say? : (see above)
What was your relationship with the person like afterwards? : We were young. I have really yo-yo-ed  back and forth with how “out” I am. I have a big mouth so I came out before it was really relevant and therefore there has been a lot of fuzziness. It did not really affect our relationship because I tend to be quite random so comments made by me are often dismissed.
What’s it like now? : It is still fine.
If you’ve been outed unwillingly, who did it? : Yes.
A girl I go to school with once said she did not think I preferred guys over girls to a group of schoolmates and I went into momentary shock because I had never said anything to her before.
My mother and brother have repeatedly proclaimed how they feel I am gay and I am not out to them.
What happened? : I dismissed, changed or graced over the topic.
What were peoples’ reactions? : I do not know.  I know that one of the schoolmates recently mentioned that she remembered the incident. . .
If you’ve experienced homophobia etc, please give an example. : I have listened to my parent’s comments: “bisexuality is perverted/does not exist,” “I would rather you not be gay,” and “if you cannot commit to a gender, how can you commit to a person?”
Since coming out how out are you at school? : only_friends
Since coming out, how “out” are you at work? : not_applicable
Since coming out, how “out” are you with family? : not_out
Since coming out, how “out” are you with your friends? : only_friends
What does being out mean to you? : I am not sure- maybe not hiding.
What differences, if any, did your cultural background make to your experience of coming out? : I am Southern European Roman Catholic. I think this has a lot to do with my being less out with them than others.
Also, I life in a fairly small and isolated city that is not overly queer friendly or visible.
What does the concept of the closet mean to you? : Hiding.
What advice would you give someone wanting to come out? : I am only partially out myself.
If you could do it all again, would you do it any differently? If so, how? : I am not sure how I did it in the first place. I think I would like to have been more secure on where I stood personally before I said anything.
Anything you want to add? : I do not have a definitive coming out experience. (I have never been in a relationship either). I have years of accumulated open comments that lead to most people being able to make an educated and fairly accurate guess.