Cess is the first straight person who did the outerview! I wanted to get some perspective from people who’ve had someone come out to them. Thanks so much, Cess!

Who came out to you and how are they connected to you? my best friend male
What did they come out as? first bi then gay
What did they say? he told me he kissed a guy.
How did they seem? it was 7 years ago during New Eve s, he was drunk ;)
Was it a surprise or did you know already? well, i knew i did not have much success with girls, was not expecting him being gay
What was your initial gut reaction to the news? i asked him if he could see himself having sex with a guy
What was your reaction? normal, i guess i was raised in an open mind family.
Did your feelings about the person change? No, not at all, actually I was the first one he told, he did not even told his best friend first not because of her but because of her parents who were very conservative, he was very good friend with my mum, that s y he felt like telling me first. We re still friends, we don t see each other much anymore since i m living abroad now, but when i m back in my hometown we take some time to catch up.
Did your thinking/feelings towards the person’s community change after they’d come out to you? not really, i m still very open mind ;), very supportive to my gay friends, going to the Gay Pride with them or gay club, mostly gay friends, haven t met many lesbians but usually the first male friend i met in a new job is gay, i don t know y cause it s not always obvious they re gay.
How about you personally – how did the whole experience impact on you? in a sense it made me stronger, I had some verbal ‘fight’ with intolerant people about homosexuality not because i had to, but because i felt to, even though i m straight a human right is a human right whatever ur sexual orientation!
What advice would you give to other people who’ve had someone come out to them? open ur mind, it is probably not easy for that person to come out, feel privilege this person came to u and not somebody else, means that this person is probably trusting u.
What advice would you give to people who come out? i dunno, use ur instinct? or make sure u know this person well before, see if their parents are conservative or not, and if they are conservative then take it slow, take a step at a time, it does not mean that ur friend will be conservative because his parents are conservative but it is probably a subject that did not come often on the table.
Anything else to declare? good luck for those who haven t make their coming out yet!