Posted by ulla on Wednesday, October 28, 2009,
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queer
For the first and possibly last time in my life, I bought a copy of Rooi Rose (for any non South African readers, it’s an Afrikaans women’s magazine and although it’s come a long way since apartheid days, it’s still one of those magazines that one thinks of as safely mainstream i.e. hardly relevant to me, as part of the LGBTQI spectrum). I bought it for the story about Robert Hamblin, the artist formerly known as Adele Hamblin; photographer extraordinaire.
Robert’s physical transiti... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Wednesday, October 7, 2009,
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queer
 So I went to Joburg Pride this year - yay me! Is there anything better than thousands of queers all together? Alright, that probably sounds a bit separatist, but hey, it's really nice not to be outnumbered for once. The sun was out and so were we - most of the boys looking fabulous and most of us lesbians looking ... well, wearing jeans and t-shirts really; myself included. I contemplated a pink grim reaper outfit, but just didn't get it together. Anyway, my girlfriend I scored QueerLife...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, May 17, 2009,
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queer
 I was sitting on the beach yesterday talking to one of my favourite straight women about sexuality. We both agreed that things would be better if everybody on earth thought they were bisexual and then just did whatever and whoever they wanted from that point. She was astonished when I told her how prejudiced the gay (not queer!) community is towards bisexuals. Now, I don't conside myself bisexual at all. I tried a few times, to have sex with men who I loved so much that really, all that w...
Posted by ulla on Friday, March 6, 2009,
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queer
But why do gay people have to go on about it so much?
People say that so rationally, so calmly that it almost seems reasonable to me too. And then I think. I think about pink triangles and black ones in concentration camps and Michael Causer and Matthew Shepherd and the two murdered Soweto lesbians and all the victims we'll never even hear about. That's why – that's it. The rest of us cannot shut up until those people are safe, until kids aren't getting bullied for it in schools, until l... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Friday, March 6, 2009,
In :
stereotypes
(for queerlife.co.za)
I have a problem with this particular stereotype – and I'm not saying everybody does it, but certainly enough to make it noticeable and worthy of a little rant. So, what lies behind this phobia anyway? I'll give you some horrible hearsay.
Bisexual is another way of saying “can't get a date on Friday.” No. It isn't. Perhaps it is in some cases, but then those people have issues that run deeper than a mere definition of their sexuality. And if you're drunk at a... Continue reading ...
(orig published by MambaGirl.com)
I’ve been asking the same question for years. What the hell is foreplay in lesbian terms? See, I assume that for straight people, foreplay is anything before penetration – I could be wrong there, but I don’t want to be educated about it thanks. Some of my best friends are heterosexual and they’re a bit like the Discovery Channel for me, but there are limits. They’re entitled to respect, dignity and privacy. Also, i don’t think they appreciate ... Continue reading ...
(orig. published on MambaGirl.com)
Ah phone sex … not the kind you have to pay for, where the “lesbian” on
the other end is probably just a bored housewife in her flannel
pyjamas, but real phone sex, with a real lesbian. A real phone too.
Bearing that in mind, there are two possibilities i.e. sex with someone
you know and sex with someone you don’t know.
Phone sex works better using a hands free kit or an old fashioned
handset – not because you’re going to have sex with the phone,... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
queer
(Orig. published by QueerLife)
LGBTQI. I’ve seen the acronym ordered differently, but bear with me,
I’m something of a dinosaur and never even got used to LGBT or whatever
it used to be. I’m one of those fuckwits who thinks ‘bacon, lettuce,
tomato’ every single time.
Lesbian
Gay
Bisexual
Transgender
Queer
Intersex
What about asexual. pansexual. polysexual, pomosexual? LGBTQIAPPP! Who
else did I miss out? And if we’re mixing sexualities and genders into
the acronym, there are even... Continue reading ...
There was an influx of lesbians into the village of which I am the only (out) gay this weekend. Three (three!) of us sat and talked rubbish for a while and then one of us needed to get some work done and the other two went to the beach. Here endeth the 'scene' update for my section of the Doos Kaap. When lesbian no2 arrived (henceforth to be referred to as "The Femme") I stuck out a dykely hand and said, "Hi, I'm the official lesbian," and she shook my hand and said she was the official visi...
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Weekly columnist for Q back when it was owned by the Mail & Guardian, regular columnist for Queerlife in 2008, as well as contributing to MambaGirl, Cherrygrrl, Gayspeak and other websites, I decided it was about time I collected it all in one place, so I can see what I've done and hopefully keep doing new stuff.
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