Posted by ulla on Sunday, January 17, 2010,
In :
dykestyle
I've decided to stop being quite such a gloomy sod and count some blessings for a change. Good things I've thought of recently as far as the dyke community goes, are Ellen Degeneres' seemingly never-ending and meteoric rise to fame – her own talk show, judge on American Idols, Cover Girl contract – and this is the woman who got married to a woman in a dress, while wearing a suit. Then there's Kate Clinton. OK she's not overly well-known in South Africa, but in 2006 she celebrated her 2... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Wednesday, October 28, 2009,
In :
queer
For the first and possibly last time in my life, I bought a copy of Rooi Rose (for any non South African readers, it’s an Afrikaans women’s magazine and although it’s come a long way since apartheid days, it’s still one of those magazines that one thinks of as safely mainstream i.e. hardly relevant to me, as part of the LGBTQI spectrum). I bought it for the story about Robert Hamblin, the artist formerly known as Adele Hamblin; photographer extraordinaire.
Robert’s physical transiti... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Sunday, October 25, 2009,
In :
stereotypes
 Both in and out of the lesbian community, butch lesbians take the most flak. We're the most easily identified of the species and so right from the get go, we're on the firing line. We are also constantly accused of "wanting to be men." Now that's complete nonsense right from the start, because a woman who wants to be a man is called transgendered and within that, may be any sexuality on the spectrum. If you're going to insist upon adhering to society's expectations and definitions, then y... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Friday, September 11, 2009,
In :
dykestyle
I was asked to spread the word ... so here you go! "Calling all aspiring writers... Send me your lesbian-content short stories to be included in publication. Not more than 2000 words, not shorter than 400 words.
Any genre except poetry. Coming out stories, bi-racial relationships, butch-femme etc, South African content will be a major plus. Erotica is acceptable, as are transgender issues.
Pseudonyms will be used upon request, though nothing will be printed without full details of writer. ... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Thursday, July 30, 2009,
In :
stereotypes
 Don't ask me why, but "lesbian haircuts" and "lesbian hairstyles" are the two search terms that still get me the most hits on Stuff Dykes Like and I think I only ever posted one link to a book on the subject there. So I figured I'd better write something about it all. Once upon a long ago, on a queer internet forum, us lesbians used to refer to the Twelve Sacred Lesbian Haircuts - they don't exist, any more than the Secret Lesbian Handshake does, but it's a hell of a good way to tease newbies...
Posted by ulla on Tuesday, July 7, 2009,
In :
dykestyle
I get called sir by cabin crew and petrol pump attendants and business contacts and, well just lots of people. It happens to me face to face and on the phone too. As a young kid I was mistaken for a boy a few times and was highly delighted - my Famous Five hero was always George. I'm sure I've said it before, but there was one memorable time when I was 23 and a guy shook my hand and congratulated me on being brave enough and man enough to wear a skirt. I've never been particularly uncomfo... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Monday, June 8, 2009,
In :
stereotypes
 I referred to someone idly as a dyke the other day and she said, "I'm no dyke!" although her Facebook profile intimated that she was into women. I looked at a photo, saw long hair and light dawned. "Oh HO!" quoth I to myself, "She is one of many lesbians who think that dyke equates to butch." So I returned to the relevant chat window and said, "Dyke doesn't equal butch these days, we've reclaimed it from being a derogatory term applied by homophobes and have made it into a good, strong wor...
Posted by ulla on Thursday, April 16, 2009,
In :
stereotypes
I bet I am the last lesbian on earth to work this one out; butches wear cargo pants and other clothes with completely extraneous pockets, because femmes don't like to take their handbags into nightclubs and we end up carrying stuff for them. A few times wearing jeans with the standard five pockets and you start missing your cargo pants, because wearing anything else, by the end of the night you end up resembling one of those, "Is that two wallets, car keys, lipstick, tissues and a coupla cel... Continue reading ...
Posted by ulla on Saturday, February 28, 2009,
In :
stereotypes
(orig. published by QueerLife & Cherrygrrl)
Write something from a dyke perspective, they reckon … what’s that? I
suppose I have a permanent lesbian’s eye view, being a lesbian and all,
but what makes it different to heterovision?
Through the glass dyke-ly I see a world that’s far
too diverse to bother with closets, but we do. Everyone has secrets.
When Michael Stipe came out he said he was fed up being made to feel
guilty, when he wasn’t ashamed of being gay, he just wanted to keep... Continue reading ...
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Weekly columnist for Q back when it was owned by the Mail & Guardian, regular columnist for Queerlife in 2008, as well as contributing to MambaGirl, Cherrygrrl, Gayspeak and other websites, I decided it was about time I collected it all in one place, so I can see what I've done and hopefully keep doing new stuff.
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