If you live in a major city, it's easy – there'll be gay nightclubs and activity clubs and hangouts and stuff to do. You've got to keep your eye on it though, apart from a few landmarks, things change a lot. There's always a lot of conjecture about why and you can join in online.

What if you live in Smallville? People obviously go to their nearest major city if there's one around, or they get on with life and make the occasional weekend foray to somewhere far, where they probably drink to...