Browsing Archive: March, 2011

Lesbian Potluck for the Soul

Posted by ulla on Tuesday, March 29, 2011, In : queer 

So I hit middle age and the experience left me feeling no less queer and no less passionate about queer rights. Human rights.

I think more about society, perhaps because I understand it better these days – or perhaps simply because I give less of a damn about being accepted by it. Ever idealistic, I wish everyone on the fringes of society would actually stand together and form another one. Not a replacement society, just a cooler, more alternative, less gold digging and cr...


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ButchLab Butch Symposium 2: Butch Stereotypes, Cliches & Misconceptions

Posted by ulla on Monday, March 7, 2011, In : stereotypes 
Symposium #2, March 2011: Butch Stereotypes, Cliches, and Misconceptions: What do people think “butch” means? What are the stereotypes around being butch? What do people assume is true about you [or the masculine of center folks in your life], but actually isn’t? What image or concept do you constantly have to correct or fight against? How do you feel about these misconceptions? How do you deal with them? Do you respond to these stereotypes or cliches? How?

I missed the 2 March dea...

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dear queer, i love you ...

Posted by ulla on Thursday, March 3, 2011, In : queer 

because illogical societal stigmas make families forget sometimes, that they love their children and parents and siblings and so on, we queers generally fear coming out, with a dread a lot of people don’t seem to appreciate. in fact, before the terror, it’s society that has caused the fact that we need to come out at all.

we shouldn’t have to.

but we do – or we lurk, fearful in closets not of our own construction.

i was very, extremely (a lot!) touched by a letter roxy wrot...


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How do you solve a problem like sex & gender?

Posted by ulla on Thursday, March 3, 2011, In : queer 

“the milk and sugar are over there sir,” says the woman in the coffee shop.
“can you pull your car forward please mama?” says the guy at the petrol station.

(“mama” isn’t just saying that my gender’s been read as female, it’s also saying i’m old enough to be a mother)

those two interactions took place within minutes of each other and i responded the same to both i.e. i didn’t contribute anything gender-related at all. there were times in my twenties, when if a guy ...


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Butch Symposium the first ...

Posted by ulla on Thursday, March 3, 2011, In : dykestyle 
Call for submissions for bloggers & writers: The first Symposium (Sinclair Sexsmith)
I am planning to launch the new project’s monthly Symposium with the site’s launch on November 15th, and I need your help. I’m looking for writers who have something to say about butch identity, who are wiling to post their thoughts on their own blog (or email them in, if they don’t have a blog) and link back to the Symposium in exchange for the promotion within this project. Here’s the to...

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All over the internet ... like Marmite.  Only tastier.

iDyke


Weekly columnist for Q back when it was owned by the Mail & Guardian, regular columnist for Queerlife in 2008, as well as contributing to MambaGirl, Cherrygrrl, Gayspeak and other websites, I decided it was about time I collected it all in one place, so I can see what I've done and hopefully keep doing new stuff.
Somewhere along the way, I got a severe case of the Tumblrs ...
::badly drawn dykes webcomic::
::vintage butch photos::

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