Browsing Archive: March, 2009

The Joys of Lesbianism

Posted by ulla on Tuesday, March 24, 2009, In : dyke dating rituals 
I write a whole heap of stuff taking the piss out of us, the lesbian community and a whole heap about the stereotypes – but it occurred to me that I don't write so much about the good stuff.  And there is so much good stuff.

Do you remember when you first worked out you were a lesbian?  Maybe the best part is the first time you do something about it … wasn't that experience just like coming home?  Suddenly the jigsaw's all together perfectly, making the most beautiful image.

How about falli...

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Entrenched Enemies

Posted by ulla on Wednesday, March 18, 2009, In : queer 
It's very freaking disheartening that people seem so incapable of changing their minds at times.  I was watching The Ellen Show - an episode which was made before the USA elections (it must have travelled Africa overland) and the gorgeous Ellen Degeneres was talking to John McCain about gay marriage being overturned in California.  In his usual smooth way, he referred, more than once, to their "respectful disagreement" about gay marriage, because "I believe marriage to be a unique institution...

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The Things Straight People Say

Posted by ulla on Friday, March 6, 2009, In : queer 
But why do gay people have to go on about it so much?

People say that so rationally, so calmly that it almost seems reasonable to me too.  And then I think.  I think about pink triangles and black ones in concentration camps and Michael Causer and Matthew Shepherd and the two murdered Soweto lesbians and all the victims we'll never even hear about.  That's why – that's it.  The rest of us cannot shut up until those people are safe, until kids aren't getting bullied for it in schools, until l...

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Biphobia ... what's that all about?

Posted by ulla on Friday, March 6, 2009, In : stereotypes 

(for queerlife.co.za)

I have a problem with this particular stereotype – and I'm not saying everybody does it, but certainly enough to make it noticeable and worthy of a little rant.  So, what lies behind this phobia anyway?  I'll give you some horrible hearsay.

Bisexual is another way of saying “can't get a date on Friday.”  No.  It isn't.  Perhaps it is in some cases, but then those people have issues that run deeper than a mere definition of their sexuality.  And if you're drunk at a...


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10 Ways to Maintain a Popular Lesbian Blog

Posted by ulla on Tuesday, March 3, 2009, In : queer 
10 Ways to Maintain a Popular Lesbian Blog
Some serious advice and some rather tongue-in-cheek.
http://www.associatedcontent.comarticle/1206442/10_ways_to_maintain_a_popular_lesbian.html
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High School Gays

Posted by ulla on Monday, March 2, 2009, In : queer 

I’d been ignoring Facebook, because it’s bloated and buggy and doesn’t generate income – I hadn’t even bothered to go and turn email notifications off again after it decided to restore them all to my account without my consent.  Emails would arrive, I’d delete them unless they were really interesting.  Six friend requests came in and I ignored those too, because I assumed they were more of you lot i.e. groupies.  I jest, I jest!  To cut a tedious story short, when I got a message ...


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iDyke


Weekly columnist for Q back when it was owned by the Mail & Guardian, regular columnist for Queerlife in 2008, as well as contributing to MambaGirl, Cherrygrrl, Gayspeak and other websites, I decided it was about time I collected it all in one place, so I can see what I've done and hopefully keep doing new stuff.
Somewhere along the way, I got a severe case of the Tumblrs ...
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