"I hate the term commitment rings," she said - and I pondered it a bit.  If it isn't an engagement ring, or a wedding ring, but it is a symbol of love and commitment, what else is one supposed to call it?

Then of course, there is our communal queer history of concepts like engagement and marriage representing things we were not allowed to do by law.  And so what we could do, was commit verbally, in front of our friends, any family who hadn't disowned us and our cats.  We could get Wiccan and c...